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Toddler Unhappy at Nursery

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Hi there

My 23-month old son is on the pathway for a diagnosis of ASD currently. The nursery completed their part of the assessment and it painted a fairly unpleasant picture of my son being easily upset, distressed, lonely and even perceived as 'difficult' by the nursery staff.

He attends nursery 2 days per week and recently he has been getting particularly upset when we arrive and I say good bye. 

Is nursery a normally healthy place for ASD children to be? I feel so clueless and my concern is that ultimately, if it's not the right place for him then is he being constantly traumatised...? I just want to do the right thing with no idea who to ask...

Any help will be greatly appreciated.

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  • Hi, I've just seen your post. I'm a Mum of an Autistic child as well as being a nursery SENCo. I'm shocked that they have completed your son's  assessment in such a negative way rather than praising his good achievements and attributes. Have they sought your opinion throughout the assessment and made plans with you? Also have they been doing regular observations to determine what is triggering his upset and distress- ie, a large amount of children, bright and noisy room. It might be worth asking to see all paperwork and what they define 'difficult' as. 

    I appreciate it is difficult with staff ratios to devote time to one child, but it may be worth speaking to his key person and/or the setting SENCo for more information.

    Nurseries can be fantastic for children's development but you could also look at your nurseries OFSTED report,  other nurseries or childminders locally who have experience with ASD. 

    I hope this is of some use and good luck xx

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  • Hi, I've just seen your post. I'm a Mum of an Autistic child as well as being a nursery SENCo. I'm shocked that they have completed your son's  assessment in such a negative way rather than praising his good achievements and attributes. Have they sought your opinion throughout the assessment and made plans with you? Also have they been doing regular observations to determine what is triggering his upset and distress- ie, a large amount of children, bright and noisy room. It might be worth asking to see all paperwork and what they define 'difficult' as. 

    I appreciate it is difficult with staff ratios to devote time to one child, but it may be worth speaking to his key person and/or the setting SENCo for more information.

    Nurseries can be fantastic for children's development but you could also look at your nurseries OFSTED report,  other nurseries or childminders locally who have experience with ASD. 

    I hope this is of some use and good luck xx

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