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Sick to death of ignorant people

Lau

Today my neighbour asked if my child is going to the local mainstream school for primary 1, I said no he’s in a specialist nursery just now as he needs a lot of support and he will be attending a specialist school where his needs will be better met and she said your sons only borderline autistic look at him he looks like a wee angel. She then said Hopefully primary 2 he will go to the local school as you want him in mainstream.

I responded with your either autistic or your not autistic you can’t be borderline. She then went on to say maybe if he took his dummy out he would talk better. I responded his dummy is a comfort to him. She then said to my son take that dummy out your mouth and he then immediately took his dummy out and just stood there staring. 

I felt rage and wanted to tell her to *** off. Obviously I didn’t as I’m not that type of person and I don’t want to cause friction with my neighbours but I don’t want to be questioned over some idiotic woman in her 50s who has clearly no experience of autistic individuals. 


I trip up over my words and almost get stumped at times when people ask uncomfortable questions my mind almost goes blank and I can’t get an appropriate response out to put someone in there place politely. 

Can I ask how you handle people like this.? 

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  • I shouldn't laugh but the way you told it was funny, I experienced a similar thing when talking to an older neighbour over the fence, she asked me when my 19 year old son was going to get a job, and I said it's complicated because he's autistic, she then went on to tell me about someone she knew that worked in a restaurant, and he shouted hello to everyone but he was really nice and he managed to hold down a job so my son could as well, I think she was describing somebody with learning difficulties, and I just didn't know what to say, she clearly had no understanding of autism and I didn't have the time or Inclination to explain, some people think they know everything or more than you, they probably think they are being helpful but they are clearly not.

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  • I shouldn't laugh but the way you told it was funny, I experienced a similar thing when talking to an older neighbour over the fence, she asked me when my 19 year old son was going to get a job, and I said it's complicated because he's autistic, she then went on to tell me about someone she knew that worked in a restaurant, and he shouted hello to everyone but he was really nice and he managed to hold down a job so my son could as well, I think she was describing somebody with learning difficulties, and I just didn't know what to say, she clearly had no understanding of autism and I didn't have the time or Inclination to explain, some people think they know everything or more than you, they probably think they are being helpful but they are clearly not.

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