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Should I push my child into attending a Scout Camp?

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Hi, I’m looking for advice on how to deal within my recently diagnosed ASD and ADHD son who is 10, when it comes to getting him to try new activities. He has been on Scout camps before and we think he enjoys it once he’s there but we have another camp coming up and he’s adamant that he doesn’t want to go. No discussion. And he gets upset when we try to talk about it - he can’t explain why, he just insists he doesn’t want to go. His older brother wants to go and he has school friends who are going, who want him to go. But he’s just refusing. He has a habit of saying no to almost every new activity and most weeks complains about going to Scout meetings even though he comes out smiling each time. He just hates the idea of any extra-curricula activity. So, do we make him go as we think he will enjoy it once he’s there, or do we let him miss it while his brother goes? We don’t want him to miss out on fun things, but is forcing him doing more harm than good? Any thoughts much appreciated. Thanks! 

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  • Perhaps there’s just one activity per week he might actually want to do. Rick climbing or judo? Some task not requiring socialising or competition, other than bettering the self. We tend to excel at these sort of sport. 

    it is important for him to stay active but school will already be an overwhelming amount of socialising. 

    a ten year old won’t have zen master disciplines with deep introspection and wisdom which will outline motive and intent. Let alone have tapped into the social exchanges and psychological undercurrents in society. As someone who wasn’t able to identify my feelings until 35, I studied a wealth of philosophy to articulate the complexities between people which I could sense but Not Make Sense Of. He won’t be able to express what the problem was until he’s older. Have him look at different sporting disciplines online and pick something he might be interested in. He can always do a run or a walk once a week (maybe with you?) if nothing else. 

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  • Perhaps there’s just one activity per week he might actually want to do. Rick climbing or judo? Some task not requiring socialising or competition, other than bettering the self. We tend to excel at these sort of sport. 

    it is important for him to stay active but school will already be an overwhelming amount of socialising. 

    a ten year old won’t have zen master disciplines with deep introspection and wisdom which will outline motive and intent. Let alone have tapped into the social exchanges and psychological undercurrents in society. As someone who wasn’t able to identify my feelings until 35, I studied a wealth of philosophy to articulate the complexities between people which I could sense but Not Make Sense Of. He won’t be able to express what the problem was until he’s older. Have him look at different sporting disciplines online and pick something he might be interested in. He can always do a run or a walk once a week (maybe with you?) if nothing else. 

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