• Replies 4 replies
  • Subscribers 65 subscribers
  • Views 1019 views
  • Users 0 members are here
Options
Related
Hints and tips
  • To quote someone's message, first select/highlight the relevant text, and then use the Quote button that appears
  • To "mention" someone, type @ followed by the start of the forum name, and choose from the list; that person will get a notification of being mentioned

Ideas

L56

Hi

I posted on this board a few days back as i am concerned my son is on the autistic spectrum. I am about to go and request a referral for an assessment from my GP and feel it would be a good idea in the the meantime to find ways to support him.

If any of you would be willing to share your strategies of how you deal with your kids meltdowns that would be ace. Is it just a matter of avoid the triggers and distract and what do you do to calm the situation once you can see that a md is imminant or winding up? What do you do when it's in public? Is it just a sit it out situation? My son just can't seem to be comforted and can't stand to be touched in this circumstance, so any ideas would be great.

Also, he has problems explaining his feelings emotionally and physically. As a result when i ask him if he's feeling poorly he doesn't understand what i mean, has anyone have any ideas how i can explain it to him. If i ask him if he feels too poorly to go to school he can't tell me so i then worry that i've sent him, when i should have kept him at home. But saying that, he gets upset being kept off school because it disrupts his routine.

Thank you once again for all your useful advice xx

Parents

  • Hi - as Longman says, it's really looking at the everything, from the immediate to the whole day.  Changes in routine, pressures building up, sensory issues such as certain noises, textures which might feel painful on the skin, certain smells, tastes etc.  It can be useful at times to keep a diary in detail.  Then you can look back on it over, say, a wk + see what patterns may have appeared.

    My son also has difficulties at times explaining why he gets upset.  If it's a short sequence of events then he can tell me easily.  If it a more complicated thing then he is lost for words, literally.  I've found that concepts can be difficult for him to grasp : things such as good, bad etc.  You have to build it up + be explicit.  So saying "don't run across the road" cannot be applied to all roads.  He wd take this to mean that particular road.  Poorly may be too big a concept for him.  I wd ask "does your tummy hurt....or does your tummy feel sick."  Breaking things down into small segments can be v helpful to people with autism - just as they build a jigsaw up bit by bit!

Reply

  • Hi - as Longman says, it's really looking at the everything, from the immediate to the whole day.  Changes in routine, pressures building up, sensory issues such as certain noises, textures which might feel painful on the skin, certain smells, tastes etc.  It can be useful at times to keep a diary in detail.  Then you can look back on it over, say, a wk + see what patterns may have appeared.

    My son also has difficulties at times explaining why he gets upset.  If it's a short sequence of events then he can tell me easily.  If it a more complicated thing then he is lost for words, literally.  I've found that concepts can be difficult for him to grasp : things such as good, bad etc.  You have to build it up + be explicit.  So saying "don't run across the road" cannot be applied to all roads.  He wd take this to mean that particular road.  Poorly may be too big a concept for him.  I wd ask "does your tummy hurt....or does your tummy feel sick."  Breaking things down into small segments can be v helpful to people with autism - just as they build a jigsaw up bit by bit!

Children
No Data