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Hi

I posted on this board a few days back as i am concerned my son is on the autistic spectrum. I am about to go and request a referral for an assessment from my GP and feel it would be a good idea in the the meantime to find ways to support him.

If any of you would be willing to share your strategies of how you deal with your kids meltdowns that would be ace. Is it just a matter of avoid the triggers and distract and what do you do to calm the situation once you can see that a md is imminant or winding up? What do you do when it's in public? Is it just a sit it out situation? My son just can't seem to be comforted and can't stand to be touched in this circumstance, so any ideas would be great.

Also, he has problems explaining his feelings emotionally and physically. As a result when i ask him if he's feeling poorly he doesn't understand what i mean, has anyone have any ideas how i can explain it to him. If i ask him if he feels too poorly to go to school he can't tell me so i then worry that i've sent him, when i should have kept him at home. But saying that, he gets upset being kept off school because it disrupts his routine.

Thank you once again for all your useful advice xx

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  • Check whether its the immediate stimulus that matters, or simply that the immediate event proves the last straw in a sequence. If you've had a bad day you can get short-tempered and blow up over nothing. Your son's threshold is a lot lower.

    So possibly think back to what chain of events could contribute to a meltdown later. Is the interruption of what he is occupied with to get ready to go shopping a contributory factor? What arguments have there been earlier that didn't lead to meltdowns but which he is still processing (rather than forgetting about).

    Keep a little notebook handy to record events and see if there is a less stressful build up to things.

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  • Check whether its the immediate stimulus that matters, or simply that the immediate event proves the last straw in a sequence. If you've had a bad day you can get short-tempered and blow up over nothing. Your son's threshold is a lot lower.

    So possibly think back to what chain of events could contribute to a meltdown later. Is the interruption of what he is occupied with to get ready to go shopping a contributory factor? What arguments have there been earlier that didn't lead to meltdowns but which he is still processing (rather than forgetting about).

    Keep a little notebook handy to record events and see if there is a less stressful build up to things.

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