Help please - 8year old son

Hi - I am new to this forum so apologies in advance for my long, rambled message, my son is 8 and was diagnosed in November 2020.  We are in a situation where we need help, I have contacted everyone and no one can support us.

Over the last month my son has started to have more frequent meltdowns, they have changed to how he was previously, almost like the flick of a switch.  They are much more intense, much more aggressive and violent. He is struggling very much with his emotions and is unable to regulate.  The triggers can be anything these days & he is very hard to pull back out of the meltdown.  We struggle to find a balance, he can be very hyper & over the top or very aggressive and on edge with no in between.  

In January I contacted his consultant for some help as he should have been seen in July.  Things have got worse and he was excluded from school twice last week for hurting children and staff.  The consultant have given me a date to see him in the middle of May which is just not good enough.  I feel we are in a crisis now.  I have contacted the GP, CAMHS, ADHD Nurse (not diagnosed yet) & local services but they are all unable to help at this time.  I have also looked into seeing a private consultant and been told that as he is Autistic there is nothing they will be able to do as they don't specialise.  I am really at a loss as to where to go next.

Any advice? Thank you.

Parents
  • Sorry your struggling with help. Societies' priorities does not include minorities', sadly.

    I wasn't like this @8 but I'm internal, less external. If it's a sudden change think traumatic event. If a subtle change I would go for sensory, bad smells or noise and counter with ambient child proof essential oils and music of interest. When I was 8 I played a record over and over until one morning it just vanished! 

    Hope you get more help.

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  • Sorry your struggling with help. Societies' priorities does not include minorities', sadly.

    I wasn't like this @8 but I'm internal, less external. If it's a sudden change think traumatic event. If a subtle change I would go for sensory, bad smells or noise and counter with ambient child proof essential oils and music of interest. When I was 8 I played a record over and over until one morning it just vanished! 

    Hope you get more help.

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  • PS, I should have explained. I like citrus esp orange. very uplifting. and of course lavenders etc 4sleep. They are poisonous because of their concentration but as a "sensory addict" I find them pleasantly or un-pleasantly distracting. And so, mood changing. Also, bake something nice smelling. Get him involved in the process. On a tangent, light can also change my mood. Especially low winter sun. Good luck, keep talking about it.