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Violent teenager

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I am alone with my son who is 14 and now near enough the same size as me. His violent outbursts are becoming more difficult to deal with. He rips out my hair and pins me to the floor, biting or bashing my head when I struggle.

Today he pulled me down the side of the bed and we fell in an awkward position where I was wedged, unable to move, with my arm crushing his neck, which obviously was terrifying for us both and could have ended very badly. Luckily I managed to move enough to free him but not myself and he then pinned me down for over an hour.

I just don't know how to stop this behaviour, how to get help or what I should do or how to react. The advice I have received over the years has been pitiful and useless and stinks of box-ticking.

We technically have a disability team social worker but they are virtually useless. I've met them twice in a year and they have nothing to offer except to tell me to call police. Is that seriously the only "help" there is? What exactly is the purpose of a social worker if all they do is tell you to call police? Is there something else they can do that they aren't revealing?

I believe calling the police would make things much worse but I don't even have the option when I'm pinned to the floor without my phone. 

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  • Is your son autistic without intellectual disability ? if so calling the police might actually be worthwhile. they can detain him in a cell for around six hours. A police incident form will be produced and it will result in evidence for anger management and may entitle you to rest bite care. it may also shock your son and to know that if your locked in a cell with a toilet and the brightest lights ever created it may either stress him and deter him from his behavior. 

    My mother did this to me when i was 14 and again when i was 21.

    when i was arrested at 21 it wasn't my fault, my stepdad is a narcissist and domestically violent to me and my mother and deliberately kept triggering me to meltdown. 

    the police incident forms have supported my PIP and benefit claim and have helped me access support as an adult. so it might be worthwhile.

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  • Is your son autistic without intellectual disability ? if so calling the police might actually be worthwhile. they can detain him in a cell for around six hours. A police incident form will be produced and it will result in evidence for anger management and may entitle you to rest bite care. it may also shock your son and to know that if your locked in a cell with a toilet and the brightest lights ever created it may either stress him and deter him from his behavior. 

    My mother did this to me when i was 14 and again when i was 21.

    when i was arrested at 21 it wasn't my fault, my stepdad is a narcissist and domestically violent to me and my mother and deliberately kept triggering me to meltdown. 

    the police incident forms have supported my PIP and benefit claim and have helped me access support as an adult. so it might be worthwhile.

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