Bereavement

I am so sorry for your loss, I lost my Nan to cancer when I was 8 (13 years ago now) so I really do feel your loss and pain. It must be so hard for you both right now. Her reaction is a very typical grief response and it’s something she needs to go through. Space and time might be what she needs. Keep telling her how much you love her, it might seem like she doesn’t want to hear it but she does really. ( I was a horribly hormonal teenager and I gave my parents a terrible time) Just know that you don’t need to hide your grief around her, make sure she knows it’s okay to not be okay. And keep sharing the memories together. The change in routine since her nan’s passing might also be contributing to her behaviour. Try to keep life as normal as possible for her. Everyone grieves differently. Here’s some ideas (some might not suit her personally. Or she might not be ready for yet) She might like to grieve by reliving the anger by Screaming into a pillow, dancing to extremely loud music, punching a punch bag, throwing things. Or she might prefer to be more calm and do things such as making a memory box, sending messages to her Nan on helium balloons, art therapy, raising money for a charity in her nan’s memory. Writing letters to her Nan, having a teddy to hug. I found distracting myself with a box set helps, Try watching something together, Friends is my go to when I need a distraction. The charity ‘young minds’ have some useful advice and  might help your daughter understand her feelings more. I am happy to chat anytime day or night if you or your daughter need someone to talk.

I am so sorry for your loss, I lost my Nan to cancer when I was 8 (13 years ago now) so I really do feel your loss and pain. It must be so hard for you both right now. Her reaction is a very typical grief response and it’s something she needs to go through. Space and time might be what she needs. Keep telling her how much you love her, it might seem like she doesn’t want to hear it but she does really. ( I was a horribly hormonal teenager and I gave my parents a terrible time) Just know that you don’t need to hide your grief around her, make sure she knows it’s okay to not be okay. And keep sharing the memories together. The change in routine since her nan’s passing might also be contributing to her behaviour. Try to keep life as normal as possible for her. Everyone grieves differently. Here’s some ideas (some might not suit her personally. Or she might not be ready for yet) She might like to grieve by reliving the anger by Screaming into a pillow, dancing to extremely loud music, punching a punch bag, throwing things. Or she might prefer to be more calm and do things such as making a memory box, sending messages to her Nan on helium balloons, art therapy, raising money for a charity in her nan’s memory. Writing letters to her Nan, having a teddy to hug. I found distracting myself with a box set helps, Try watching something together, Friends is my go to when I need a distraction. The charity ‘young minds’ have some useful advice and  might help your daughter understand her feelings more. I am happy to chat anytime day or night if you or your daughter need someone to talk.