Please, I'm looking for information.
I live in a society where almost all marriages are arranged (not here to discuss arranged marriages).
A suiter has come for my daughter who seems to check all the boxes.
However, he has 6 brothers, one of which is Autistic.
Does this increase the likelihood that he will have an autistic child?
Thanks
M
I've been on this site for a while now, I came seeking people like me, and to gain an external view of autism such as the normies might get of myself. I'm not surprised the poor man is asking this question!
This forum is NOT full of happy well adjusted people describing happy lives is it? I have periods of trying tor read ALL the posts not just the ones I appear in, and the picture I get of "Autistic life", is not often a rosy one.
Can you really blame the guy for not wanting his grandkids to be neurodivergent, especially in a society where fitting in may well be more of a matter of life and death? Dont; ever forget people, WE are living the easy life that people travel thousands of miles to get a piece of!
OTOH, as a few of you hint at, when an Autist does "make good", we seem to make very good indeed.
But if the OP isn't a gambler, he may well prefer the non-autistic option! And in his situation it appears he has a role to play, and is trying to play it to the best of his abilty. Whether we agree or not, makes no difference to his situation.
When I came here I was pretty gung-ho to form an Autist army and "seize power" believing that a part of Autism was an appreciation of what it feels like to be "othered" together with an enhanced sensitivity of how interconnected everything is and how careful we should tread, and therefore we would be good leaders.
Apparently I had got completely the wrong end of the stick. A few posters have found some elightenment and contentment in their lives, but SO MANY of us write like tortured souls, it isn't a good advert for the "difference" at all..
If we "deserve to be preserved" as a minorty we need to be clear about what it is that we bring to the party I believe, and er, make sure the normies know it, so as they want to include us as part of greater humanity..
I've been on this site for a while now, I came seeking people like me, and to gain an external view of autism such as the normies might get of myself. I'm not surprised the poor man is asking this question!
This forum is NOT full of happy well adjusted people describing happy lives is it? I have periods of trying tor read ALL the posts not just the ones I appear in, and the picture I get of "Autistic life", is not often a rosy one.
Can you really blame the guy for not wanting his grandkids to be neurodivergent, especially in a society where fitting in may well be more of a matter of life and death? Dont; ever forget people, WE are living the easy life that people travel thousands of miles to get a piece of!
OTOH, as a few of you hint at, when an Autist does "make good", we seem to make very good indeed.
But if the OP isn't a gambler, he may well prefer the non-autistic option! And in his situation it appears he has a role to play, and is trying to play it to the best of his abilty. Whether we agree or not, makes no difference to his situation.
When I came here I was pretty gung-ho to form an Autist army and "seize power" believing that a part of Autism was an appreciation of what it feels like to be "othered" together with an enhanced sensitivity of how interconnected everything is and how careful we should tread, and therefore we would be good leaders.
Apparently I had got completely the wrong end of the stick. A few posters have found some elightenment and contentment in their lives, but SO MANY of us write like tortured souls, it isn't a good advert for the "difference" at all..
If we "deserve to be preserved" as a minorty we need to be clear about what it is that we bring to the party I believe, and er, make sure the normies know it, so as they want to include us as part of greater humanity..
Fair point, but why do you think that 'happiness', however defined, should be the measure of a good or worthwhile life? If I think about people who have made substantial contributions to (for example) literature or science, they weren't often cheerful types. It may be the case, at least in many instances, that heightened suffering enables heightened sensibility, or skill, or something else. I would suggest that virtue is the measure of the good life.
I wouldn't change any aspect of my past because that would mean that I wouldn't be the same as I am now, despite any of the problems.
It may also be the case that this forum gives a skewed view, as many people go to it when they have a problem, rather than as a reflection of their everyday life.
I'm not sure that any minority needs to give a justification for its preservation.
I think that the most gifted autistics are a definite advantage to humanity. An additional viewpoint to the normative can be of immense benefit. Such autistics can contribute to solving problems by unusual abilities in lateral and abstract modes of thinking, and the ability to focus on details has many applications.
I REALLY appreciate the empathetic post.
Thank you.
And thanks to everyone that give any form of input. It was all food for thought.
For everyone, the reason I did not want to discuss arranged marriage was in respect of the community here. To my mind, this is forum related to Autism, and I did not want to intrude with unrelated issues.
In principle, I am open to reasonable discussion of almost any topic, but not at the expense of others who may feel this is a safe exclusive place for their topic.
