Please, I'm looking for information.
I live in a society where almost all marriages are arranged (not here to discuss arranged marriages).
A suiter has come for my daughter who seems to check all the boxes.
However, he has 6 brothers, one of which is Autistic.
Does this increase the likelihood that he will have an autistic child?
Thanks
M
Wow.
There are plenty of peer-reviewed academic papers on the web which address this topic and the answer is not yet clear cut.
But I really invite you to reconsider this mentality. Reading your post made me shudder.
Some of the most brilliant minds in history either were, or were probably, autistic. The UK intelligence services and some progressive think tanks across the world are actively seeking out neuro-divergent minds. It isn't a disease.
I take your point about local support systems, but whatever questions arise from that, the answer cannot be selective breeding.
Differently abled people all over the world were ridiculed and marginalised to a much greater extent than they are now (believe me, it still happens) but global movements like the Paralympics have radically changed attitudes. This happened because courageous people faced the issues, rather than gave-in to them. In many countries, something similar happened with LGBTQi people (a fight which continues). Bigotry against minorities is something to be fought, not something that decent people should be subservient about.
I also hear your point about your own limitations, but if that's the case are you really in a place to make these decisions for your daughter? I don't have a thing about arranged marriages but surely the people doing the arranging have to be fit for the task? That may sound harsh, but the question you posed was morally abhorent, and by asking it you invite candid, unvarnished, truthful answers, however unwelcome.
I accept your difficulty and I guess, at least, you are giving it thought. But you're basically asking for advice on how to do the gene selection that will ensure that your family never gives birth to an autistic person, and I won't be part of that.
Think about this - you've posted a question, on a platform populated largely by people on the autistic spectrum, asking how to ensure that your daughter never gives birth to an autistic child.
It doesn't amount to eugenics, but it's one big step in that direction.
If your daughter married a man she could love, and the match produced a child, that child should be loved, treasured, and supported, by the family, irrespective of disabilities, health profile, or whether or not they had autism or anything else. If there are difficulties, families should face them, together. If there is bigotry, they should face it down. That is the familial duty of parents and grandparents.
We're all human, and we're all different. We believe in different things, like different things, have different skills and shortcomings, we're tall and short, fat and thin, fair and dark, ill and healthy, academic and practical, and some of us are on the spectrum. Get over it.
That probably isn't the answer you wanted, but the answer you wanted isn't very nice.
Wow.
There are plenty of peer-reviewed academic papers on the web which address this topic and the answer is not yet clear cut.
But I really invite you to reconsider this mentality. Reading your post made me shudder.
Some of the most brilliant minds in history either were, or were probably, autistic. The UK intelligence services and some progressive think tanks across the world are actively seeking out neuro-divergent minds. It isn't a disease.
I take your point about local support systems, but whatever questions arise from that, the answer cannot be selective breeding.
Differently abled people all over the world were ridiculed and marginalised to a much greater extent than they are now (believe me, it still happens) but global movements like the Paralympics have radically changed attitudes. This happened because courageous people faced the issues, rather than gave-in to them. In many countries, something similar happened with LGBTQi people (a fight which continues). Bigotry against minorities is something to be fought, not something that decent people should be subservient about.
I also hear your point about your own limitations, but if that's the case are you really in a place to make these decisions for your daughter? I don't have a thing about arranged marriages but surely the people doing the arranging have to be fit for the task? That may sound harsh, but the question you posed was morally abhorent, and by asking it you invite candid, unvarnished, truthful answers, however unwelcome.
I accept your difficulty and I guess, at least, you are giving it thought. But you're basically asking for advice on how to do the gene selection that will ensure that your family never gives birth to an autistic person, and I won't be part of that.
Think about this - you've posted a question, on a platform populated largely by people on the autistic spectrum, asking how to ensure that your daughter never gives birth to an autistic child.
It doesn't amount to eugenics, but it's one big step in that direction.
If your daughter married a man she could love, and the match produced a child, that child should be loved, treasured, and supported, by the family, irrespective of disabilities, health profile, or whether or not they had autism or anything else. If there are difficulties, families should face them, together. If there is bigotry, they should face it down. That is the familial duty of parents and grandparents.
We're all human, and we're all different. We believe in different things, like different things, have different skills and shortcomings, we're tall and short, fat and thin, fair and dark, ill and healthy, academic and practical, and some of us are on the spectrum. Get over it.
That probably isn't the answer you wanted, but the answer you wanted isn't very nice.
FYI, I truly appreciate your point of view. Where I'm sitting, every point of view helps.
AND, I do apologize for the offence.
