We are in urgent need of help. My daughter, 15, is in a really bad place. Her mental health is getting worse. This is all down to school. She wasn't in school Monday, my choice, but she was back in yesterday. She had a great day to start off with, did all her work, including English work which she never does. Did really well until lunch, where she started struggling, because her classroom was busy and noisy. After lunch she did maths in the school foyer/ hall but she really struggled because school was very noisy. It was raining and people couldn't go outside on the swing to calm down and do what they usually do. This caused chaos and the whole school was kicking off and struggling, meaning many students had to be held and hurt teachers. There was no where quiet for her to go so she was stuck in a noisy area. This then made her kick her staff, and was very overwhelmed. She did not have to be held. When a room was available she went into it and called dad, this is what the school put in place to keep her from wandering around school.
She was very unsettled yesterday and to add to that, she is excluded the rest of the week. She's not happy and she left the house when I told her that, and didn't answer my calls and messages and didn't know where she was and we were worried because it was dark and very cold. We then had no choice but to call police and report her missing. She then called me later on and I picked her up and usually going for a walk calms her but didn't this time, she was out for hours, walked so far. She was a mess, in a very bad state. She's fed up with school always excluding her and she said this, "If they treat the students fairly, I'm guessing no one will be in tomorrow (today)". Every one had a bad day and was lashing out. Some people worse than my daughter so what will happen to them. She's been excluded for the rest of the week. Me and her father are calling the school today become we are just fuming with the school. The want her to learn but she's never there to learn. They put stuff in place and she did what was right, which she struggled to do. She had a good day, apart from kicking her staff.
She's never been aggressive towards people in school. She has had a bad time at previous schools and we kept moving her which did not help. We believe she has PTSD due to the last mainstream school she went to. That was torture for her. Sent home and excluded, goes back to school and gets sent home and excluded. It was the same, so that's why we moved her. She's really struggling. She thinks this exclusion is unfair, and she's done worse things and didn't get excluded this long. She was struggling and no one took that into account so she lashed out. The school isn't a good fit for her. She's around challenging behavior and she is now very aggressive and never used to be. Is she not allowed to struggle? We do want to pull her out but we know that it will upset her deeply and will cause major issues. We don't know what to do. She's really struggling and doesn't want to go back fearing the same thing will happen but at the same time she does enjoy it a bit and doesn't want to leave. She refuses to be home schooled, done this previously. This school has made her worse. What do I do? I just want her to be happy.
