I need advice about what support and help should be put in place to help in school also possibly at home.
After my daughter's exclusion, for violence towards staff, the school have tried different techniques and have found a different reason for her behavior. It's due to little things during her day and more and more adds up in her mind and she explodes. She has one of her favorite staff, who she can talk to at the end of every day and they do a comic strip about her day so she can see what was going through her mind and what happened because on a tricky day, she can't remember what happened. They have put a social story in place explaining that when she wants space and to be left alone, she can be in her classroom, OT room or sensory room and staff can wait outside if she's safe.
She is not sticking to this and still wanders round the school but does go in and out of the small sensory room. She did hit a member of staff today, not sure why because she wasn't provoked apparently. They also found out that she likes being held. She will be held, when it's needed and she doesn't want them to let go when they offer and they end up linking arms standing against the wall chilling and talking. It's strange, very strange. Being held clams her down in minutes, depending who's around. She has to be held every day more than once. Sometimes she will put up the biggest fight that they have to let go or she won't and they stand holding her when she's calm. All we know is that her mind is exploding before the hold, then after, she's calmer and she's unloaded it. It's a pattern which they are seeing in the comic strip they are doing.
What can we put in place. I hold her myself when she needs it, so does her father and school do as well. It's frequent and we try giving her cuddles but she pushes us away. What else can the school do to help or put in place and what would help at home that we haven't tried. I'm out of ideas. Sorry for bothering but I have no where to turn.
