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Head banging and school does nothing about it

ParentingAutism

Just wondering what schools should be doing to keep children safe when it come to behavior. Yesterday, my daughter had an amazing day, but the last 2 lessons, after lunch, she had a few wobbles, she took her staff's radio and wouldn't give it back so they left her with it. And at the end of the day she took another staff's coffee. The staff attempted to get her to give it back but she wouldn't so they tried playing a game with it. They said, 'how about you hide it under the porter cabins and then she'll have to find it' but she wasn't falling for that trick. They wouldn't let her leave school to go to her taxi unless she gives them back, which I completely understand. 

Then someone opened the gate and she ran into the car park, where her taxi was waiting. She then stood on the gate, talking to staff on the other side, and her staff tried pulling her down because then she tried to do a runner. It then turned into a mess, her being held, teachers injured, because she was kicking, punching, biting, all the common things she does and then she started head banging on the fence and on the floor and they got her weighted blanket and a pillow but my daughter chucked away the pillow and was head banging again. And two staff were sat next to and next thing, she's kicking off again so everyone has to move away. And there it was, my daughter lying on stones, weighted blanket half on half off, one shoe on, one shoe off, just head banging whilst the teachers are just looking. Why didn't they put the pillow under her head, or tried to comfort her. I know they had an order to back away because things could've turned ugly but now she has a headache and a bruised head. 

I spoke to her last night and she told me that when she's in that situation, it physically hurts her body, it is painful and she wants the pain to go away, that's why she was stomping her feet, banging her head, and attacking staff, because her body was in pain, it always is in that situation. My heart just broke. But what can the school do go help? Leave her lying hurting herself more than she already was. Just stand and watch. Her taxi was also waiting to leave and her taxi driver was even nicer than the staff, making sure she was alright and checking in with her the whole journey home. He's lovely but the staff, I understand but I still don't

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  • Is this the same girl who runs away and threatens people with knives? I've never come across any other examples of autistic child who do the things she does. If it is the same girl, then the more I read about her behaviour, the more it sounds as if she has another undiagnosed mental disorder such as Conduct Disorder (CD) which involved breaking serious rules, such as running away, staying out at night when told not to, or skipping school; being aggressive in a way that causes harm, lying, stealing, or damaging other people’s property on purpose. Children with CD show ongoing patterns of aggression toward others, and engage in serious violations of rules and social norms at home, in school, and with peers.

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  • Is this the same girl who runs away and threatens people with knives? I've never come across any other examples of autistic child who do the things she does. If it is the same girl, then the more I read about her behaviour, the more it sounds as if she has another undiagnosed mental disorder such as Conduct Disorder (CD) which involved breaking serious rules, such as running away, staying out at night when told not to, or skipping school; being aggressive in a way that causes harm, lying, stealing, or damaging other people’s property on purpose. Children with CD show ongoing patterns of aggression toward others, and engage in serious violations of rules and social norms at home, in school, and with peers.

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  • in reply to ☕Tassimo ☕

    Yes it is the same girl. She can be so sweet and lovely but the other side of her isn't. She has a warning on her criminal record already, last year, at 14. We've looked at other mental disorders, but they say she doesn't meet the criteria, we've looked at CD, ADHD, Bipolar, Psychosis and things like that. But today really showed how bad her behavior was, she's suspended until Monday, where they will come to the house for a chat and Tuesday she should be back in school. She went up and attacked staff, hitting them on the back of the head, biting, kicking, punching, pushing. But that was because she asked them to give her space and to be left alone, and they didn't and for an hour, she was just building up and then exploded on them. Attached 2 members of staff.