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Getting my daughter out of bed?!

LizB

My daughter is 16 and only recently diagnosed with ASD and ADHD, she's been really struggling to get out of bed in the mornings and it seems to be getting worse. I managed to get her to school for 12.30 today! Does anyone have any advice on anything that could help? Do I need to be more structured or encourage more independence? Any ideas at all gratefully received!

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  • Recently diagnosed could potentially mean in a state of Extreme Relief. The weight and pressure of living hyper-vigilant, always on guard, intensely focused on every critical social experience, constantly battling sensory overload and not knowing what is assaulting you... she may need a full holiday. For some of us not knowing what is going on would be similar to growing up in a prison camp and never learning how to defend ourselves. Suddenly you're let out and shown that world isn't all there is. 

    Can you arrange to have her homework sent home for a few weeks? As with anything, a process of healing and recovery begins with rest. I might suggest this is always the next phase. 

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  • Recently diagnosed could potentially mean in a state of Extreme Relief. The weight and pressure of living hyper-vigilant, always on guard, intensely focused on every critical social experience, constantly battling sensory overload and not knowing what is assaulting you... she may need a full holiday. For some of us not knowing what is going on would be similar to growing up in a prison camp and never learning how to defend ourselves. Suddenly you're let out and shown that world isn't all there is. 

    Can you arrange to have her homework sent home for a few weeks? As with anything, a process of healing and recovery begins with rest. I might suggest this is always the next phase. 

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  • in reply to JuniperFromGallifrey

    She got her diagnosis just as she finished year 11 and then had three months at home not really having to go out, but has now started sixth form, it's almost like she had the rest when she didn't need to deal with anything else but now is having to work out who she is in the real world with this new self knowledge....I don't know how to support her while still helping her to be independent. Getting out of bed seems a basic life requirement that she struggles with, some days worse than others