Non verbal autism

You either allow intra-family violence to occur, or you don't. 

That is the hard lesson it took me nearly 30 years to learn.

Learning now at the age of four that violence is self-defeating and breeds further violence, IS a simple lesson you can teach. 

When my much beloved child walked up and bit me unexpectedly, at about the same age, I didn't even think about it before delivering a very, very, fast (but not heavy) slap in return. It was the only time I ever had to raise a hand to my child.

I'd love to have delivered a more political correct solution, but I had 38 years or so of previous failed attempts to find a political solution to violence directed at myself, and THE ONLY SOLUTION is to either put distance between yourself and the initiator of violence or deliver superior, (or at least deterrent) levels of violence.

It's the ONLY time parent child violence is mandated in my experience, to teach that one short sharp lesson, that violence begets more violence. If you use another psychological training method, it's often very inefficient, and does not teach the child the all important lesson about what it feels like to have violence applied to you. I would not have struck my child again, had the behaviour persisted, but I instinctively and intellectually knew that one short slap, would make her seek alternative ways of giving me guff, when she felt the need.

If you use violence as a tool to try train a child generally it just teaches them that initiating violence for non-violent offences is O.K.when you get to be an adult and in the superior position in life. There are plenty of those types wandering about already, they think that if you hold a politcal opinion that they don't agree with, or a different religion, or your ancestors hurt their ancestors, that violence against random strangers is justifiable. It NEVER is.

Once you have taken violence off the table as a method of problem resolution, life & it's problems become more managable.

Take what I say with a pinch of salt, I've experienced an excess of violence in my life.

But nipping it in the bud will be a big advantage to your kid, I am SURE about that.

You either allow intra-family violence to occur, or you don't. 

That is the hard lesson it took me nearly 30 years to learn.

Learning now at the age of four that violence is self-defeating and breeds further violence, IS a simple lesson you can teach. 

When my much beloved child walked up and bit me unexpectedly, at about the same age, I didn't even think about it before delivering a very, very, fast (but not heavy) slap in return. It was the only time I ever had to raise a hand to my child.

I'd love to have delivered a more political correct solution, but I had 38 years or so of previous failed attempts to find a political solution to violence directed at myself, and THE ONLY SOLUTION is to either put distance between yourself and the initiator of violence or deliver superior, (or at least deterrent) levels of violence.

It's the ONLY time parent child violence is mandated in my experience, to teach that one short sharp lesson, that violence begets more violence. If you use another psychological training method, it's often very inefficient, and does not teach the child the all important lesson about what it feels like to have violence applied to you. I would not have struck my child again, had the behaviour persisted, but I instinctively and intellectually knew that one short slap, would make her seek alternative ways of giving me guff, when she felt the need.

If you use violence as a tool to try train a child generally it just teaches them that initiating violence for non-violent offences is O.K.when you get to be an adult and in the superior position in life. There are plenty of those types wandering about already, they think that if you hold a politcal opinion that they don't agree with, or a different religion, or your ancestors hurt their ancestors, that violence against random strangers is justifiable. It NEVER is.

Once you have taken violence off the table as a method of problem resolution, life & it's problems become more managable.

Take what I say with a pinch of salt, I've experienced an excess of violence in my life.

But nipping it in the bud will be a big advantage to your kid, I am SURE about that.

I take onboard your experience and appreciate your advice. But I don’t want to demonstrate and violence towards him I don’t believe he is at the level or understanding he may nearly be 5 but isn’t mentally at the age.