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Am I good enough for my sons?

EmmaJK80

Hello! I have 2 amazing autistic children aged 12 and 9 who are non-verbal and also have global delay and sensory processing diversities. After speaking to their teachers, I realise it looks like they will need full-time care aside from me when they are adults. Frankly, I want to care for them and feel heartbroken I am not enough. I try my best and feel my efforts to help them have not been enough. I wonder if this is just how all parents feel regardless of if they have neurodiverse children or neurotypical ones - that their children will leave the nest.

How do I help my sons best? 

Best wishes, Emma 

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  • Emma,

    We have evidence that shows all autistic and neurodiverse people have something to offer society. I’ve listened to lots of parents share their experiences, they share the professionals were mistaken about their child’s capabilities. One shared a psychologist told her her daughter will require full time residential care, in secondary school the girl still couldn’t express her needs and didn’t interact with others. However, this severely autistic girl and her autistic sisters founded and run their own award winning business, their business, Relative Blue, is even online. 

    Even though your children are nonverbal they still have a chance at having a certain level of independence with the help and support they require. A teacher observed that the students who scored the lowest percentage in certain subjects, were also the students who scored highest in other areas. You’ve got to leave the traditional ways the majority do things, like in schools grades are a violence towards the developmental process, a 4th grade reader may be a 6th grade mathematician. The traditional ways prevent progress, that includes the traditional ways of predicting what an autistic person is capable of.

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  • Emma,

    We have evidence that shows all autistic and neurodiverse people have something to offer society. I’ve listened to lots of parents share their experiences, they share the professionals were mistaken about their child’s capabilities. One shared a psychologist told her her daughter will require full time residential care, in secondary school the girl still couldn’t express her needs and didn’t interact with others. However, this severely autistic girl and her autistic sisters founded and run their own award winning business, their business, Relative Blue, is even online. 

    Even though your children are nonverbal they still have a chance at having a certain level of independence with the help and support they require. A teacher observed that the students who scored the lowest percentage in certain subjects, were also the students who scored highest in other areas. You’ve got to leave the traditional ways the majority do things, like in schools grades are a violence towards the developmental process, a 4th grade reader may be a 6th grade mathematician. The traditional ways prevent progress, that includes the traditional ways of predicting what an autistic person is capable of.

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