Hello. My son is a strong 11 year old boy and has been diganosed with ADHD ASD and has support for sleep.
He started to really struggle at school in year 5 and now is in year 7 (which I know is hard moving) I know when he's really trying he let's it out at home as most do. Which I'm use too. We managed it as best we can. It worse at the minute because we are currently in a state of uncertainty and a new school.
However he use to have outburst and meltdowns in the car. Injuring me his little sister and acted violent towards me while I'm driving. Hitting punching kicking grabbing me and the steering wheel handbrake. I obviously moved him to the back but then he would hit his sisters or punch or grab me from behind.
It stopped for a while and now has gotten worse again. I only have a small car so no matter where he sits he can gain quite large control of me his sister or the car with a small reach.
I know this is a behaviour because he is struggling. He is struggling at school and let's it out at home. We are currently in a hostel which is very hard as he doesn't have his own space. (Hopefully rectified soon) And it's constant change. But because of our situation I'm constantly going inthe car to take him to school and visit friends and family. Trips etc to get out the house.
This time it's happened too much for me to control. We have had talks about I understand you feel like you need to release whatever you are feeling. But your family is in the car. There are others on the road. They have families and I don't want to crash or hurt us or anyone else. We won't have a car if it gets damaged. Etc. Talked about why he feels like that and it's always a different set of reasons why. After he has calmed down he is always so apologetic and sad he's done it.
I just don't know what to do. Thankyou for letting me get it out and sorry if it seems manic and doesn't make sense. I am open to all and any advice, support, ideas anything.
Thankyou
Laura
