Incident involving police

I've read a lot of your posts, and I think you have been through and are going through hell trying to understand and cope with your daughter's behaviour. I feel for you. Even though we are parents, we are still human beings. There is a limit to what we can endure psychologically and emotionally. Are you getting any personal support? Your daughter have everyone at her beck and call (parents, teachers, support staff, Police)... BUT who do you have? WHO is supporting you during these stressful incidents?

I always think about the instructions for parents that, in the event of an aeroplane crash, to put on their own oxygen masks before they put on their children's' masks.

I've done some basic research online and I haven't found any examples of this kind of behaviour in autists of your daughter's age. I am autistic and I didn't engage in this type of dangerous behaviour. It could be that there is some other psychosis motivating this behaviour. I think it might be a mistake to link her behaviour to autism when it actually could be bad behaviour (to get attention) or behaviour motivated by some other unknown psychosis. Her behaviour is not normal. It's dangerous. She is not only putting herself in danger, but she is endangering the lives of other people. Imagine the driver of the car who hits her while she is wandering in the middle of the road... it doesn't bear thinking about how much mental anguish hitting someone would inflict upon a driver innocently driving their car (not to mention the potential physical damage).

The staff at the school must be constantly on edge and stressed out in case something happens to her. I know how it feels when someone in our care has an accident. It's devastating. And for the Police, too, it must be frustrating to be called out to spend time on this kind of incident.

My guess is that it could very well be attention-seeking behaviour on her part. Have you considered this? Because, the truth is, that it does seem to work for her. She gets everyone's complete attention. Her parents, her siblings, the school staff, the police officers, ambulance crews... everyone at her beck and call.

If a child is used to getting excess attention because of a disability (or other reason) which means that parents over-compensate the amount of attention the child receives, then as that child grows older it becomes traumatic to them if they feel that the special attention they've enjoyed is reduced. It is what they are used to.  As a consequence, they may start to exhibit behaviour that increases the amount of attention. And usually, dangerous, destructive behaviour is the most successful way of getting an immediate increase in attention.

Is she receiving any psychological interventions? I think you need a break from all this for your own sanity.

Whatever it is, I hope you give yourself as much self-care and attention as you give your daughter. You are a human being too.

You deserve to be content, at peace and happy. 

You're completely right about it not being normal! 

When was her last MRI scan? Is she having seizures? Does she recall everywhere she's been? If she's able to tell you everything that happened then perhaps she's not blacking out. 

Let's say she wants to feel known, understood and has been struggling with being treated with disregard, contempt and emotional distance. Having to show up for neuro-imaging scans as a consequence might prompt less dangerous ways of trying to find a real connexion. 

Humans at my beckon call is not a real connexion, it's meaningless. It's even enraging and suicide inducing if it's as close as I'll ever get to others and it's how tyrants like Henry VIII are designed. :( If this is the case, you might want to try a church group for kids her age. It can help fill these deeper voids society isn't capable of connecting into. 

You're completely right about it not being normal! 

When was her last MRI scan? Is she having seizures? Does she recall everywhere she's been? If she's able to tell you everything that happened then perhaps she's not blacking out. 

Let's say she wants to feel known, understood and has been struggling with being treated with disregard, contempt and emotional distance. Having to show up for neuro-imaging scans as a consequence might prompt less dangerous ways of trying to find a real connexion. 

Humans at my beckon call is not a real connexion, it's meaningless. It's even enraging and suicide inducing if it's as close as I'll ever get to others and it's how tyrants like Henry VIII are designed. :( If this is the case, you might want to try a church group for kids her age. It can help fill these deeper voids society isn't capable of connecting into. 

Thank you. We don't believe she is having seizures because she knows all the little details about what happened but then when it comes to something that increases her adrenaline, she can't remember it as clear. But I guess that's normal.