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6-year-old autistic daughter afraid of male teachers/stranger male

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My autistic daughter is 6 years old. Her teacher told me that she was afraid of male teachers in school and hid away from them. My daughter does hide behind me if there is strange male near her.  She was definitely afraid of a male teacher (trainee) last term that she ran away from him and refused to go into the classroom. I raised the issue to the school but school claimed that the trainee was very gentle and had no problems with my daughter. Because my daughter is nearly non-verbal, it is hard to know the reasons.  She is not afraid of her dad, grandad and uncle. She is fine with most male doctors except one male doctor who does not smile. The school asked me to work with them to find a solution to help my daughter to overcome the anxiety around male teachers. Where can I get help and advice?

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  • My 4 yo is deathly afraid of males. Everyone assumes she was abused. Thing is she's never been away from me or my husband and he would NEVER! It's her autism. She hides behind me or covers her face. She won't even let us out her hair up because it's how she covers her face. I found this post because I'm trying to find others like her or get some wisdom. She needs to see a dentist but the only dentists in our insurance area are ALL males, all of them. We've tried before. She did great with the hygienist but when the dentist came in it was like we locked her in a dark room with the boogeyman. It was awful, especially for her. I'm so lost. I wish I could help her more. 

  • in reply to yvkaye

    She's 4. So luckily, all her baby teeth will fall out. Just book the female hygienist she likes and visit 2x year. When you visit, have conversations with the dentist and perhaps as you familiarise your self with him, she might feel more comfortable. Should you find an Autistic Dentist, most likely she will feel more comfortable with him eventually. If you live somewhere Autism is under-researched, you'll simply want to find a more introverted, specialised individual who is a bit more hyper-sensory than others. One who values precision and has maybe endearing eccentricities. These are traits we might feel more comfortable with. Be mindful of someone who appears overly "empathetic" or really connects to everyone around him, this is a trait that can sometimes be a red flag of lightly sociopathic - not bad, in fact, often good in leadership, but this type is a bit of a nemesis for our 'personalities' or 'traits'. 

    I did forget about a chap my father was friends with and worked in a lab with who was apparently the only adult male I was a little more comfortable with -over time. He was also an engineer/mathematician. Introverted, grounded, kind-hearted. 

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  • in reply to yvkaye

    She's 4. So luckily, all her baby teeth will fall out. Just book the female hygienist she likes and visit 2x year. When you visit, have conversations with the dentist and perhaps as you familiarise your self with him, she might feel more comfortable. Should you find an Autistic Dentist, most likely she will feel more comfortable with him eventually. If you live somewhere Autism is under-researched, you'll simply want to find a more introverted, specialised individual who is a bit more hyper-sensory than others. One who values precision and has maybe endearing eccentricities. These are traits we might feel more comfortable with. Be mindful of someone who appears overly "empathetic" or really connects to everyone around him, this is a trait that can sometimes be a red flag of lightly sociopathic - not bad, in fact, often good in leadership, but this type is a bit of a nemesis for our 'personalities' or 'traits'. 

    I did forget about a chap my father was friends with and worked in a lab with who was apparently the only adult male I was a little more comfortable with -over time. He was also an engineer/mathematician. Introverted, grounded, kind-hearted. 

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