My 12 year old changes everybody’s words

Hi. My 12 year old autistic son over the last 6 months has started to change our words and become very oppositional. For example if we say ‘sit down’ he will say ‘stand up’ if we say ‘go to sleep’ he will say ‘go to bed’ and if he can’t think of a similar word to change it to he will change how it sounds instead. We are at a point that he now changes every single sentence we say as well as his siblings and it’s now stretching to TV programmes he is watching. As you can imagine it’s very frustrating and we wondered if anyone else has experience of this and any advice they can give. We have tried reflection time, taking toys away etc but nothing works. We have spent a long time trying to look into it online too but struggling to find any advice. 

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  • It's just a game for him, and lots of autistics like language games. Trying to punish it won't help. I don't know your son but 'reflection time' won't help unless he's emotional and needs to calm down. 'Taking toys away' sound kind of patronising for a 12 year old. Can you just carefully explain to him why you find it irritating/disrespectful? Then maybe get him interested in a less annoying sort of word game.

    E.g. find two food words that are anagrams of each other (it's hard so it might keep him quiet for a while). Lemon/melon, pasta/tapas etc...

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  • It's just a game for him, and lots of autistics like language games. Trying to punish it won't help. I don't know your son but 'reflection time' won't help unless he's emotional and needs to calm down. 'Taking toys away' sound kind of patronising for a 12 year old. Can you just carefully explain to him why you find it irritating/disrespectful? Then maybe get him interested in a less annoying sort of word game.

    E.g. find two food words that are anagrams of each other (it's hard so it might keep him quiet for a while). Lemon/melon, pasta/tapas etc...

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