Wandering. Update:

Hi, you probably happened read my latest forum but thank you if you did. It was an incident that happened with my daughter and her leaving the house and running off. 

Basically, there was another incident the other day and I reported her as a missing child. We had an argument on the way back home from her dad's and she just wanted to leave the house when we got home. I stopped her but then all of a sudden, she ran to the kitchen and pulled a knife out and tried waving it in front of me. I was absolutely petrified and broke down in tears, where she then left through the gate and disappeared. This was when my husband was picking our youngest son up and my daughter was in the garden. We saw her location and it told us she was only down the road so we looked for her as well as my family who were down. 

We couldn't find her so we looked at all the go to places she might have gone to and there was no sign of her at all. That's when we tried calling her but no answer. Her phone was switched off. Then we called the police and reported her missing. Around 4 hours later, I was contacted by the pub staff miles away who said she was there with them again. The staff were more worried about my child than their customers. One staff member even walked next to her in the middle of the road trying to get herself to safety. I am so thankful for their help. I found out that she had walked through the forest and had walked through a pond or something and she was soaked and cold. 

The day after was a struggle. We had the police round to make sure nothing happened to her and then we had social workers round again to talk to our youngest about the other incident. But in the end, my eldest came down saying she had took something and was laughing. She took 2 paracetamol. Last year she overdosed on it. We believe it was for attention. We then spoke to her and talked through everything. She is not allowed out by herself. We believe the first incident was planned because nothing triggered it that day and we found evidence on her phone and laptop from days before on the search history and it all links with the day it happened. It was all very scary, especially because it happened last year. The social worker will be talking to her school when they go back to see if she can have some therapy. I don't know what to do really. It's all very scary. If she wants to leave, she will go to extreme measures to let that happen. Including jumping into next doors garden. What the flip do I do now. She's dangerous. 

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  • This may be worth mentioning, since your main concern is Keeping Her Safe - perhaps this has not been brought to your attention.

    At this rate, the stress you’re subjecting her to will kill her faster than anything else. 

    stress weakens the immune system making one incredibly vulnerable.  It does this by changing the bodies hormones - which regulate heart rate, thyroid, circadian rhythm and everything else in the bio-system. 

    It could be wise to read through this site and learn how other autistic individuals have been forced to endure similar stressful and chaotic  environments and the consequence of it. 

    Many of us are not disabled but stuck in a terrorising and corrupt society which we are incompatible with but manage to extract ourselves from things which add stress. You continually mention she is resourceful and aware of dangers but not when at her wits end. This is Absolutely Normal for any Overly Stressed Human or Animal. If she runs into traffic after a fight, she is not seeking attention OR even trying to get herself killed. 

    the human brain when over stressed releases all kinds of fight or flight chemicals which can cause “brain fog”. Your daughter is living in a perpetual state of SURVIVAL- it would be prudent to research how this affects the brain and how it’s killing her. Not one autistic individual on this site could live in the state she’s in and not respond the exact same way. 

    soaking wet in the rain escaping to a Public House would be soothing and calming. That says a great deal about her home life.

    please- for your own sake and hers, and everyone here who wishes she had a better place to live, Get Help. She will need an Autistic therapist who can help her work through all this incredible stress, and it’s possibly time you underwent therapy as well.  

  • Thank you, we are trying to get her into therapy. 

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