Wandering. Update:

Hi, you probably happened read my latest forum but thank you if you did. It was an incident that happened with my daughter and her leaving the house and running off. 

Basically, there was another incident the other day and I reported her as a missing child. We had an argument on the way back home from her dad's and she just wanted to leave the house when we got home. I stopped her but then all of a sudden, she ran to the kitchen and pulled a knife out and tried waving it in front of me. I was absolutely petrified and broke down in tears, where she then left through the gate and disappeared. This was when my husband was picking our youngest son up and my daughter was in the garden. We saw her location and it told us she was only down the road so we looked for her as well as my family who were down. 

We couldn't find her so we looked at all the go to places she might have gone to and there was no sign of her at all. That's when we tried calling her but no answer. Her phone was switched off. Then we called the police and reported her missing. Around 4 hours later, I was contacted by the pub staff miles away who said she was there with them again. The staff were more worried about my child than their customers. One staff member even walked next to her in the middle of the road trying to get herself to safety. I am so thankful for their help. I found out that she had walked through the forest and had walked through a pond or something and she was soaked and cold. 

The day after was a struggle. We had the police round to make sure nothing happened to her and then we had social workers round again to talk to our youngest about the other incident. But in the end, my eldest came down saying she had took something and was laughing. She took 2 paracetamol. Last year she overdosed on it. We believe it was for attention. We then spoke to her and talked through everything. She is not allowed out by herself. We believe the first incident was planned because nothing triggered it that day and we found evidence on her phone and laptop from days before on the search history and it all links with the day it happened. It was all very scary, especially because it happened last year. The social worker will be talking to her school when they go back to see if she can have some therapy. I don't know what to do really. It's all very scary. If she wants to leave, she will go to extreme measures to let that happen. Including jumping into next doors garden. What the flip do I do now. She's dangerous. 

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  • You paint her out to be some dangerous person, but she just wanted to escape and be left alone for awhile, she seems trapped. After the argument, she wanted to leave, and you would not let her, so she resorted to something drastic to get away from you.  Many people on the spectrum need a LOT of time to themselves (completely alone) in places they feel most comfortable, but she is not allowed to be left alone, and needs someone there at all times? That would drive anyone crazy after awhile. And if she runs away, she is hunted like an animal, and brought back against her will. 

    I really dislike that when she overdosed, you say that you believe it was for "attention." That really aggravated me. It's like you just made up your own reasoning for why she overdosed, instead of just asking her. Maybe she doesn't want to talk to you about it because she does not trust you after all that's happened, and because no one actually listens to her, or understands her, or treats her like a human being. When she does not want to do something, she is forced to do it against her will, as if it's the best thing for her, and they speak for her, instead of allowing her freedom to do the things she wants, but she does not get a say in her own life. 

    She's always wondering around, she shuts off her phone so she can be completely alone and away from everything that's overwhelming her. To try and stop her from having freedom, will just cause her to want it more. If she does not want to go somewhere, why is she forced to go, like she has no choice no matter what she says or does. She sounds like a prisoner, trapped in a tower for her own protection and safety, but being in a tower can cause restlessness, and the need to escape. 

    I honestly don't know what's worse, allowing her to go where she likes going the most, or having her traumatized by everyone always dragging her away from her favorite place, to be somewhere where she does not want to be. 

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  • You paint her out to be some dangerous person, but she just wanted to escape and be left alone for awhile, she seems trapped. After the argument, she wanted to leave, and you would not let her, so she resorted to something drastic to get away from you.  Many people on the spectrum need a LOT of time to themselves (completely alone) in places they feel most comfortable, but she is not allowed to be left alone, and needs someone there at all times? That would drive anyone crazy after awhile. And if she runs away, she is hunted like an animal, and brought back against her will. 

    I really dislike that when she overdosed, you say that you believe it was for "attention." That really aggravated me. It's like you just made up your own reasoning for why she overdosed, instead of just asking her. Maybe she doesn't want to talk to you about it because she does not trust you after all that's happened, and because no one actually listens to her, or understands her, or treats her like a human being. When she does not want to do something, she is forced to do it against her will, as if it's the best thing for her, and they speak for her, instead of allowing her freedom to do the things she wants, but she does not get a say in her own life. 

    She's always wondering around, she shuts off her phone so she can be completely alone and away from everything that's overwhelming her. To try and stop her from having freedom, will just cause her to want it more. If she does not want to go somewhere, why is she forced to go, like she has no choice no matter what she says or does. She sounds like a prisoner, trapped in a tower for her own protection and safety, but being in a tower can cause restlessness, and the need to escape. 

    I honestly don't know what's worse, allowing her to go where she likes going the most, or having her traumatized by everyone always dragging her away from her favorite place, to be somewhere where she does not want to be. 

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