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How can I help my adult son be happier?

NAS74662

Hello, this is my first post.

My adult son has (undiagnosed) aspergers.  He started the route towards diagnosis a few years ago but wouldn't take it past the first session.  Since then he has refused to entertain the idea of any help but he finds it so hard being him and very much does need help.  How on earth can I even brouch the subject with him without him getting upset, never mind getting him to the point where he would go back to the GP.  He trusts me and I need that to continue.  

Am sure this must be a problem for other people whose loved ones have aspergers, so any thoughts would be appreciated.

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  • Thank you all for your replies, lots of food for thought.  Luckily my son's manager is aware of his situation.  As you say I'm not sure diagnosis is necessary but help for anxiety and depression certainly is.  Since yesterday I'm thinking that maybe we start off with me providing that help (although the idea of sitting him down for 5 minutes might work, I can imagine his reaction but you never know, and I need to be brave too) and see where that gets us.  Anyway to this end I'm trying to immerse myself in as much information as I can cope with.

    I've noted all your suggestions and will follow them up.  Re Chris Packham, can you tell me the name of the documentary please.  His story, which I shared with my son made us realise that he was exactly like that too.  

    Any more of your comments and advice welcomed 

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  • Thank you all for your replies, lots of food for thought.  Luckily my son's manager is aware of his situation.  As you say I'm not sure diagnosis is necessary but help for anxiety and depression certainly is.  Since yesterday I'm thinking that maybe we start off with me providing that help (although the idea of sitting him down for 5 minutes might work, I can imagine his reaction but you never know, and I need to be brave too) and see where that gets us.  Anyway to this end I'm trying to immerse myself in as much information as I can cope with.

    I've noted all your suggestions and will follow them up.  Re Chris Packham, can you tell me the name of the documentary please.  His story, which I shared with my son made us realise that he was exactly like that too.  

    Any more of your comments and advice welcomed 

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