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How can I help my adult son be happier?

NAS74662

Hello, this is my first post.

My adult son has (undiagnosed) aspergers.  He started the route towards diagnosis a few years ago but wouldn't take it past the first session.  Since then he has refused to entertain the idea of any help but he finds it so hard being him and very much does need help.  How on earth can I even brouch the subject with him without him getting upset, never mind getting him to the point where he would go back to the GP.  He trusts me and I need that to continue.  

Am sure this must be a problem for other people whose loved ones have aspergers, so any thoughts would be appreciated.

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  • There isn’t really a ‘cure’ for autism and a lot of us wouldn’t want one. After diagnosis help he’ll get from his doctors will mostly be limited to controlling anxiety and depression which he’ll get anyway if he asks.

    the real point of a diagnosis is it gives you a bit of paper to wave at a boss or burocrat to prove you’re not making your difficulty's up and to demonstraight yes some special allowenses need to be made for you.

    you can honestly tell your son the diagnosis isn’t likely to lead to any medical help, at least none Specific to autism. It might however buy him a little latitude from the people in society who may be making his life hard.

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  • There isn’t really a ‘cure’ for autism and a lot of us wouldn’t want one. After diagnosis help he’ll get from his doctors will mostly be limited to controlling anxiety and depression which he’ll get anyway if he asks.

    the real point of a diagnosis is it gives you a bit of paper to wave at a boss or burocrat to prove you’re not making your difficulty's up and to demonstraight yes some special allowenses need to be made for you.

    you can honestly tell your son the diagnosis isn’t likely to lead to any medical help, at least none Specific to autism. It might however buy him a little latitude from the people in society who may be making his life hard.

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