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Help re: stim (older child)

Ineedsomebodyhelp

Hi! I am new here so please bear with me. 

I have a very beautiful and intellectual 11 year old daughter who has always shown traits of autism and has recently been diagnosed. Unfortunately, she is pretty much a recluse and doesn't like to leave the house at all. This has become an issue in regards to school where she is only attending 2 days per week. She has lost all of her friends - which she is not bothered about - but this really affects me because I just feel at her age she needs her own friends. 

The reason for this post is.. I feel very alone in all of this, and none of my own friends seem to understand. Are there any sort of people I can speak to on here that shares the same thing, with a child of the similar age. Long story short: she lives in her own fantasy world in her head, of her own making. She believes her only friend is a character and when she goes into her fantasy world, she stims through clapping, jumping, clicking, pacing for hours and hours per day. If there is anyone else out there that is living through this aswell?

I've tried groups for children with autism but she is terrified of the social expectation. CAMHS are no use at all. Private therapy was useless because she is mute/non-verbal.. only with me can she speak but at rare times she is not able to. It's quite draining! I love her to bits and just want to find some support for her.

Any ideas or help.. please do get in contact or reply. I'll be so grateful. Feel quite lost and alone in all of this

Thanks x

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  • I'm not from the UK, so I do not know what kind of support is available to you, but I just wanted to say, that I really understand your feelings of being alone in it (I actually just wrote a post on it- in this Parents and carers section, I titled it "Do you ever feel exhausted with worry?" if you want to read it).

    My daughter is 15 and she too, does not want to leave the house and does not want to keep in touch with friends and so does not really have any at this point. All she really wants to do, is sit at her pc and play with her online friends and it is near impossible for me to get her to do anything else.
    I try to remind myself that she is doing what makes her happy. It sounds as if your daughter is also doing what makes her happy.

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  • I'm not from the UK, so I do not know what kind of support is available to you, but I just wanted to say, that I really understand your feelings of being alone in it (I actually just wrote a post on it- in this Parents and carers section, I titled it "Do you ever feel exhausted with worry?" if you want to read it).

    My daughter is 15 and she too, does not want to leave the house and does not want to keep in touch with friends and so does not really have any at this point. All she really wants to do, is sit at her pc and play with her online friends and it is near impossible for me to get her to do anything else.
    I try to remind myself that she is doing what makes her happy. It sounds as if your daughter is also doing what makes her happy.

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