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Help re: stim (older child)

Ineedsomebodyhelp

Hi! I am new here so please bear with me. 

I have a very beautiful and intellectual 11 year old daughter who has always shown traits of autism and has recently been diagnosed. Unfortunately, she is pretty much a recluse and doesn't like to leave the house at all. This has become an issue in regards to school where she is only attending 2 days per week. She has lost all of her friends - which she is not bothered about - but this really affects me because I just feel at her age she needs her own friends. 

The reason for this post is.. I feel very alone in all of this, and none of my own friends seem to understand. Are there any sort of people I can speak to on here that shares the same thing, with a child of the similar age. Long story short: she lives in her own fantasy world in her head, of her own making. She believes her only friend is a character and when she goes into her fantasy world, she stims through clapping, jumping, clicking, pacing for hours and hours per day. If there is anyone else out there that is living through this aswell?

I've tried groups for children with autism but she is terrified of the social expectation. CAMHS are no use at all. Private therapy was useless because she is mute/non-verbal.. only with me can she speak but at rare times she is not able to. It's quite draining! I love her to bits and just want to find some support for her.

Any ideas or help.. please do get in contact or reply. I'll be so grateful. Feel quite lost and alone in all of this

Thanks x

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  • The imagination is a powerful tool. It's also useful to build empires on (for ex. Steve Jobs). 

    She sounds quite happy. I'm not similar though I am a mother and 'stimming' is the same method I use to discipline my craft. At that age I wanted to build things, make things, listen to things over and over and I was in my head as well. Are there things she's interested in which she could, over the course of 10 years, let's say, begin to transfer her imagination toward? Right now it's make believe. But anything we can imagine, we can eventaully create. From flip phones to rockets. It may take some exploring and trying out things. Perhaps dance routines or judo (youtube) for fitness and kinetic motor skill building to start. Maybe learning to play an instrument or pottery. She might not know what interestes she can turn into skills until she encounters them.

    Just some thoughts! 

  • in reply to JuniperFromGallifrey

    Thanks for your reply, Juniper. The pottery might be a good shout. I really do appreciate your reply xx

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