Feeling Broken

Hello All, I have just spent the past 40 minutes sobbing into my husband’s chest, I’m so tired, and broken. My 11 year old son was diagnosed ASD in February. For the past 18 months we have pleaded for help with his behaviour, as he is aggressive towards myself and his 8 year old brother. I’m told daily what a horrible mom I am, that I don’t care or love him, he constantly wishes his brother dead, breaks and destroys his brothers toys and it’s tearing my family apart. Although he is physically aggressive and has bruised myself and his brother, he has never physically hurt his dad or older sister, but they too are both subjected to verbal abuse and threats. We all bend over backwards to accommodate him, his wants and needs, often to the detriment of his siblings and still it’s not good enough. I’m at the point where I’m frightened at times to be left alone with him, because the minute myself or his brother do something he doesn’t like the aggressive behaviour begins. I can’t keep calling my husband when he’s at work it’s so unfair. 
Once we received our diagnosis we were discharged from CAMHs, school have put a referral in for early help from social services but I just feel so lonely and tired. I just need to vent.

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  • The NAS does have specialist child therapists. One suggested Yuko Yoshida's Raising Children with Asperger's Syndrome and High-Functioning Autism, which might give you some pointers. The headache with this in 7 or 8 year olds is that they get very conflicting messages from society as to how to settle to its norms which they can't cope with. It's much harder if you can't drop into a pattern of peer behaviour.

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  • The NAS does have specialist child therapists. One suggested Yuko Yoshida's Raising Children with Asperger's Syndrome and High-Functioning Autism, which might give you some pointers. The headache with this in 7 or 8 year olds is that they get very conflicting messages from society as to how to settle to its norms which they can't cope with. It's much harder if you can't drop into a pattern of peer behaviour.

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