Hello everybody,
I believe I am in need of some wisdom again. My boy who is nearly 7 is autistic and attends mainstream education. School is being quite supportive in general although there have been a few episodes that have left me and my husband wondering. Some of the TAs who occasionally work with him can be rude and I suspect that has to do with me pointing out that they were not treating him fairly at the beginning of the school year. (He would be punished for not paying attention to the TA during a reading session despite a report saying he had attention and listening Issues. That was causing him a lot of anxiety. At the time he was not diagnosed yet. Most recently, they have used the rainbow system to try and deal with his problematic behaviour again although they have been asked not to. The system provokes anxiety especially with autistic children.) I just find myself in the middle of something I struggle to understand. Shouldn't the people in school be the ones who know better? He was so upset this morning because he would like to be spoken to with respect, the same one they should be modelling in school. I am afraid they believe my son is unaware of what goes on because he seems not to be listening. And yet, he is one of the lucky ones because he does not have enormous sensory challenges and he is able to survive the school day.
I know that if I feel wronged and especially because this involves my child I try and be honest about things I do not agree with and I thought I was being polite. But maybe they have taken it personally or just do not understand the impact their actions can have on these children. Or maybe it's just me, the overprotective me who cannot stand to be wronged.
