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Looking at her

NAS72680

Hi everyone.

Could anyone shed some light on this...

My daughter regularly tells us that she wants someone (her baby sister, friends etc) to stop looking at her. She will tell me mummy move her away the baby is looking at me.

We ask her why and she cannot really give us an answer (she is only 4) She will get quite upset so generally we will move the baby for example from her area.

I am intrigued to see if anyone else's children do the same? 

Thanks 

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  • Speaking from my own experiences, throughout my childhood I was ridiculed for my differences. I didn't like people looking at me because I always felt like I was being judged negatively by them as this was a common reaction I received. This would trigger stress and frustration because I was uncomfortable and would feel as though I was being attacked just from being looked at. I also frequently found putting my thoughts and feelings into words to be challenging. I don't remember having these feelings from as young as 4, but I remember them clearly being there from primary school and it was the kids there that caused it. 

    Of course, I am merely speculating from what I have experienced and felt myself. It might not be the same for your daughter. There's bound to be a reason behind why she feels this way that she just can't yet articulate.

  • in reply to KJ

    Hi there,

    I'm sorry to hear that you experienced difficulties during your childhood. I think the idea of being judged is maybe how she feels, especially if the face staring at her doesn't exhibit any other facial expression.

    Thanks for your insight.

  • in reply to NAS72680

    That's okay! Experiences make us who we are and I'll be happy if mine can help another. How do you normally react to your daughter when she tells people to stop looking at her? I know you said that you move the baby away, but what about others and how do they react?

  • in reply to KJ

    We just try to reassure her really that whoever is looking at her is doing so because they are interested, like her, she's their friend. In the case of the baby we tell her its because she loves her. Hopefully we're doing the right thing? Its always a guessing game when she can't fully tell us why or how she feels.

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  • in reply to KJ

    We just try to reassure her really that whoever is looking at her is doing so because they are interested, like her, she's their friend. In the case of the baby we tell her its because she loves her. Hopefully we're doing the right thing? Its always a guessing game when she can't fully tell us why or how she feels.

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