Looking at her

Dunno if this might help - there could be a couple of things going on.

We tend to be highly stressed - overstimulated and fight-or-flight stuck on 100%.       She could be picking up on the 'this person doesn't belong in this environment' so there is anxiety like a prey animal being near to a predator - the 'look' can be perceived as a threat as in most animals.

There's also option 2 - she's four so she's in full-on parent manipulation mode finding new and novel ways to pull your chain and trying to assert control to make the world dance to her tune - which is a course of action that can never be satisfied - new rituals will be added on the fly.

She's too young to have reasoning skills so she might not know what or why she's doing this.

Obviously, I'm just a bloke off the net so you're going to have to work out what's going on and what she's trying to achieve.

Best wishes

Dunno if this might help - there could be a couple of things going on.

We tend to be highly stressed - overstimulated and fight-or-flight stuck on 100%.       She could be picking up on the 'this person doesn't belong in this environment' so there is anxiety like a prey animal being near to a predator - the 'look' can be perceived as a threat as in most animals.

There's also option 2 - she's four so she's in full-on parent manipulation mode finding new and novel ways to pull your chain and trying to assert control to make the world dance to her tune - which is a course of action that can never be satisfied - new rituals will be added on the fly.

She's too young to have reasoning skills so she might not know what or why she's doing this.

Obviously, I'm just a bloke off the net so you're going to have to work out what's going on and what she's trying to achieve.

Best wishes

Thanks for the reply.

Yes my daughter is very fight or flight and I do believe there is some anxiety there.