School and social issues

Help!! I’m new to this group but really need some advice from people who understand where I’m coming from. My daughter is 13 and struggles like crazy with the social side of school, she has no friends and finds school life very difficult, she is currently getting upset on certain days randomly and won’t go to school because she masks the whole time and then has meltdowns where she can’t cope at home and needs a day off to recover. Especially changes where she doesn’t know how the day will go makes her very anxious and I have to keep her home. School are so unsupportive and don’t help her one bit. Currently in process of changing school or thinking about taking her out completely, any advice would be great. 

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  • This as I see it is the eternal dilemma for autistic people. Masking makes it hard to get friends, you’re not yourself with people so they’re not getting to know the real you. What’s worse the version of you they’re getting to know is a bad approximation of a normal person. At best it’s a very bland person.

    your daughter would probably find it easier to make friends if she didn’t mask. Problem is for every friend she’d probably make two enemies and quite a lot of them might be teachers.

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  • This as I see it is the eternal dilemma for autistic people. Masking makes it hard to get friends, you’re not yourself with people so they’re not getting to know the real you. What’s worse the version of you they’re getting to know is a bad approximation of a normal person. At best it’s a very bland person.

    your daughter would probably find it easier to make friends if she didn’t mask. Problem is for every friend she’d probably make two enemies and quite a lot of them might be teachers.

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