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11 year old keeps going to the toliet everywhere but the toliet

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My 11 year old son has HFA. He struggles with a number of things one of which has been bet wetting. I would often find puddles of urine on his bedroom floor. However it's been getting more and more obvious that it's not actually during the night whilst he is asleep. Tonight just 10 minutes after his quiet time had started I caught him knelt on his bed weeing onto the mattress. 

When I ask him why he just says he doesn't know. I am so stressed out constantly cleaning but now I know he is doing it deliberately I am angry and Confused. I keep having to buy new mattresses because even with protectors on he just pulls them off. 

Any suggestions for this exhausted mum? 

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  • He could be doing it just because he likes the feeling or experience and attention or just finds it interesting.    

    We tend to 'stim' - a behaviour that we find soothing or comforting - the classic is rocking and jiggling legs or pulling our own hair - it's why they invented those fidget toys.

    If it's something he's enjoying, it could be the splashing noise or the wetness - a common stim is having extra-long showers - so many ways that the cascading water can stimulate our brains - water drumming on top of the head etc.

    Can you work out if it's a stim?

    The trick then is for you to be able to satisfy the need for the brain stimulation in a more useful way.

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  • He could be doing it just because he likes the feeling or experience and attention or just finds it interesting.    

    We tend to 'stim' - a behaviour that we find soothing or comforting - the classic is rocking and jiggling legs or pulling our own hair - it's why they invented those fidget toys.

    If it's something he's enjoying, it could be the splashing noise or the wetness - a common stim is having extra-long showers - so many ways that the cascading water can stimulate our brains - water drumming on top of the head etc.

    Can you work out if it's a stim?

    The trick then is for you to be able to satisfy the need for the brain stimulation in a more useful way.

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