11 year old keeps going to the toliet everywhere but the toliet

My 11 year old son has HFA. He struggles with a number of things one of which has been bet wetting. I would often find puddles of urine on his bedroom floor. However it's been getting more and more obvious that it's not actually during the night whilst he is asleep. Tonight just 10 minutes after his quiet time had started I caught him knelt on his bed weeing onto the mattress. 

When I ask him why he just says he doesn't know. I am so stressed out constantly cleaning but now I know he is doing it deliberately I am angry and Confused. I keep having to buy new mattresses because even with protectors on he just pulls them off. 

Any suggestions for this exhausted mum? 

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  • bedroom is his agoraphobia space.... his safe space, that he doesnt want to leave... not even to go to the toilet. possibly.... anyway thats just my thinking on it, not proffesional.

  • of which googling it i find its perhaps correct "Agoraphobia is a type of anxiety disorder. A person with agoraphobia is afraid to leave environments they know or consider to be safe."

  • of which to context this idea mpre, at night time when i was little i always used to just go behind a cupboard in my room lol dont think anyone noticed... theres a sense of discomfort every time i leave my room, judgment, feeling weird, i dunno i cant place it but i can think on it, same feeling as agoraphobia. mostly at night for me, i guess perhaps i dont want people to think im walking around at night... anyways i piss in beer bottles now when i feel too discomforting to go down to the bog then empty them when everyones at work. so i do feel giving him a alternative like a bed pan or whatever to piss in would solve your issue. dont get why we got rid of them tbh, they were perfectly normal and acceptable in ages past.