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11 year old keeps going to the toliet everywhere but the toliet

NAS73557

My 11 year old son has HFA. He struggles with a number of things one of which has been bet wetting. I would often find puddles of urine on his bedroom floor. However it's been getting more and more obvious that it's not actually during the night whilst he is asleep. Tonight just 10 minutes after his quiet time had started I caught him knelt on his bed weeing onto the mattress. 

When I ask him why he just says he doesn't know. I am so stressed out constantly cleaning but now I know he is doing it deliberately I am angry and Confused. I keep having to buy new mattresses because even with protectors on he just pulls them off. 

Any suggestions for this exhausted mum? 

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  • in reply to NAS73557

    Hi. I really feel for you, even though my daighter doesn't wet the bed, she does miss the toilet regularly ( I have puddles on the floor), mess her pants,  and needs constant prompts to put new pants on etc. She is a high functioning autistic child who is 10 years old (11 in October). She also has lots of sensory issues and often refuses to go to school. One day it took me 45 minutes to get her to school, but that's another story.

    When he is in his bedroom he is in a comfortable environment  so he may not like going to the toilet as he has to leave his room..Also autistic children find it hard to focus on a few things at once. My daighter plays games online and I think she puts off going to the toilet, as she often get fixated with things..Hence puddles on the bathroom floor, mess in her pants. I think the gaming becomes her main focus rather than the fact she needs the toilet.

    There isn't an easy solution to be honest but I think it is important to tell him how the mess affects uou and how it's really important to go to the toilet otherwise his room would start to smell. Perhaps keep bringing up the importance of hygiene. I know my daughter finds it hard to see other people's points of view and sees things very black and white. At the moment I have issues with her lack of motivation towards school. 

    I know how you feel as I feel totally stressed out some days and extremely exhausted. I am absolutely certain your son will improve with time. Try to remain calm , which is hard and keep reminding him why going to the toilet is so important. 

    Take care. 

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  • in reply to NAS73557

    Hi. I really feel for you, even though my daighter doesn't wet the bed, she does miss the toilet regularly ( I have puddles on the floor), mess her pants,  and needs constant prompts to put new pants on etc. She is a high functioning autistic child who is 10 years old (11 in October). She also has lots of sensory issues and often refuses to go to school. One day it took me 45 minutes to get her to school, but that's another story.

    When he is in his bedroom he is in a comfortable environment  so he may not like going to the toilet as he has to leave his room..Also autistic children find it hard to focus on a few things at once. My daighter plays games online and I think she puts off going to the toilet, as she often get fixated with things..Hence puddles on the bathroom floor, mess in her pants. I think the gaming becomes her main focus rather than the fact she needs the toilet.

    There isn't an easy solution to be honest but I think it is important to tell him how the mess affects uou and how it's really important to go to the toilet otherwise his room would start to smell. Perhaps keep bringing up the importance of hygiene. I know my daughter finds it hard to see other people's points of view and sees things very black and white. At the moment I have issues with her lack of motivation towards school. 

    I know how you feel as I feel totally stressed out some days and extremely exhausted. I am absolutely certain your son will improve with time. Try to remain calm , which is hard and keep reminding him why going to the toilet is so important. 

    Take care. 

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