Stressed and upset

Hi, you've probably read my latest forums about my daughter and issues in school. She is becoming very upset and stressed at the weekends and wishes she could just be in school and wants to up her timetable because she only does part-time.. I don't know why but she's always been like this. Maybe it's the change or something? I'm not sure. But the past couple of days especially, she has been acting a little differently than normal... I'm not sure how to explain this but I'll try my best...

She hasn't been going to her English lessons for the past week, so teachers are trying to do more visual stuff and using pictures in books but she still doesn't go. She picks and chooses when she's going to lessons. Today, she did Science and was amazing in it. They said she was coloring in some cardboard then doing work which was great! She had break time then had P.E which she loves. But, after P.E she had Math, which she likes, but did not do it in the classroom. She took the work and completed it on her favourite bench she's been carving!

Then came lunch and had nothing to do so kept walking round the school until she decided to jump the gate. A teacher followed her and they had a chat about her favourite things... cycling and animals. She then went back into school. 10/15 minutes later was English, which she hasn't been going to, and when her teacher told her that she needs to go into the classroom, she turned round, walked away and jumped the gate again, where the same teacher followed her and they had another chat and went into school and looked at the animals and sat on the bench with her, whilst she was carving it... 

Her behaviour is confusing me and the teachers. They have there own suggestions about the reason for behaviour but I don't know what to do. Like I said, she wants to be at school more but she doesn't go to lessons much or stay on site.... 

What can I do? Sorry for bothering you again.... 

Thanks x

Parents
  • ParentingAutism,

    I see it is possibly something to do with the bench you mention, just about everything you're saying connects to returning to and carving this bench.

    The bench is at school and she keeps wanting to go to school, possibly because of the bench.

    Skipping English lessons to go carve the bench.

    Lunch time others may be using the bench so she can't carve it, then as you say, nothing to do.

    Some autistic people just can't bear something incomplete, so if she's trying to carve a picture or something into the bench she'll do whatever she has to do to complete it.

    The bench sounds very connected to the issue.

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  • ParentingAutism,

    I see it is possibly something to do with the bench you mention, just about everything you're saying connects to returning to and carving this bench.

    The bench is at school and she keeps wanting to go to school, possibly because of the bench.

    Skipping English lessons to go carve the bench.

    Lunch time others may be using the bench so she can't carve it, then as you say, nothing to do.

    Some autistic people just can't bear something incomplete, so if she's trying to carve a picture or something into the bench she'll do whatever she has to do to complete it.

    The bench sounds very connected to the issue.

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  • I can definitely agree. No one sits there at lunch so I still wonder why she jumped the gate instead. Her senco said about her not being able to move onto something else until work is finished but all her drawing and carvings are completed on the bench. The bench is starting to become an issue now. What happens if it is raining and she can't go out there? What if someone else sits on the bench before her? I definitely see where your coming from... Thanks