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Daughter in denial/refusal of starting periods and refusing to go to school

Nicola

Hi, I am new to the world of parenting a child with autism. My daughter is 12 and was only diagnosed is January this year. She struggles with major anxiety and school refusal and these have been a big part of her diagnosis.

She started her period last month (March) and although she knew this would be something that would happen to her, she has not taken it well or accepted it at all. She keeps telling me that she doesn’t want it and I feel completely helpless as I cannot do anything to take it away. She gets so upset about going to school and has missed school when she had her first period and is currently not at school as she is having her second period.

I would really appreciate some advice and support for her and myself.

thank you 

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  • Is she in a lot of pain or just struggling to accept the change in her body? My friend had painful periods from the start and the doctor gave her some medication to take when she came on to ease the cramps. I forget what it was called though maybe began with an N. I don’t think it was a contraceptive but may be an option if she really can’t cope. I’m not a doctor so I’m not sure if there are age limits to prescribing them for medical problems. As for dealing with the change I guess it will depend whether she will eventually get used to them turning up every month after a while or whether the sudden change of them happening each month will always upset her a bit. Hard to know at the moment although maybe if you try and track her cycle from now it may help her to know if it’s on the way? I used to put a system of dots in my diary so I knew when to make sure to definitely have pads nearby and in my school bag (that was more to keep it from sneaking up on me because I can struggle with knowing how much time has passed!)

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  • Is she in a lot of pain or just struggling to accept the change in her body? My friend had painful periods from the start and the doctor gave her some medication to take when she came on to ease the cramps. I forget what it was called though maybe began with an N. I don’t think it was a contraceptive but may be an option if she really can’t cope. I’m not a doctor so I’m not sure if there are age limits to prescribing them for medical problems. As for dealing with the change I guess it will depend whether she will eventually get used to them turning up every month after a while or whether the sudden change of them happening each month will always upset her a bit. Hard to know at the moment although maybe if you try and track her cycle from now it may help her to know if it’s on the way? I used to put a system of dots in my diary so I knew when to make sure to definitely have pads nearby and in my school bag (that was more to keep it from sneaking up on me because I can struggle with knowing how much time has passed!)

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