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Not again... Leaving school

ParentingAutism

My 14 y.o has had a bad day in school (which is a PRU) because nothing is going to plan which I can understand. First, she has a new pupil in her class and a few new pupils in the school so she's anxious as she's not familiar with them. Another problem was that the head teacher and her senco wasn't in, which she wasn't expecting so her day got even worse. She doesn't like Project/History because she's doing Space (which she likes) but it wasn't what she was expecting. Then her math teacher went home which she didn't know until the lesson started where she had a substitute (a teacher she knows well and likes) so that was a surprise for her and she was overwhelmed since nothing was working. She also fell out with her tutor, which really messed her up. Therefore overall her day was ruined in her mind and she wasn't in control of any situation so she left school after lunch so I picked her up. (It's also her first day back so it's always anxious going back). 

It's a real worry when she leaves the school site since she doesn't have a phone on her and teachers didn't realise until the next lesson. And where we live, there are lots of weirdos out and it's a horrible world, anything could happen to her (like any other person). I don't know what to do anymore but keep a cool head and be understanding. She doesn't want to go to school for the rest of the week. 

Last month we had similar problems so I emailed the senco and she wrote this back: I wonder why she is thinking like this about not attending when she is doing so well. It is almost like she stops engaging with things when she becomes comfortable with them and they stop providing such an intense reaction in her, almost like she seeks that adrenaline reaction and when that goes she becomes flat and disengaged.

Could this be part of it and being bored in school as well of the things I mentioned above. She wanted to stop going last month and stopped going to lessons, like she did today. We are going round in circles...

I'm sorry for going on. Any opinions/advice is appreciated. Thanks x

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  • Have you considered trying to get a placement in a good specialist school if she can get a autism diagnosis , i have found most sencos useless when it comes to autism ,to your face they are all friendly and nice ,but this is generally false . They say what they think you want to hear all comes from a text book. My wife was talking to a doctor from great ormand street hospital about there child going to a good place in herts that has totally changed her from someone acting like your daughter to a happy child .

    Also monthly hormones can really effect some people this age ,just a thought, i have 5 daughters .

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  • Have you considered trying to get a placement in a good specialist school if she can get a autism diagnosis , i have found most sencos useless when it comes to autism ,to your face they are all friendly and nice ,but this is generally false . They say what they think you want to hear all comes from a text book. My wife was talking to a doctor from great ormand street hospital about there child going to a good place in herts that has totally changed her from someone acting like your daughter to a happy child .

    Also monthly hormones can really effect some people this age ,just a thought, i have 5 daughters .

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