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Not again... Leaving school

ParentingAutism

My 14 y.o has had a bad day in school (which is a PRU) because nothing is going to plan which I can understand. First, she has a new pupil in her class and a few new pupils in the school so she's anxious as she's not familiar with them. Another problem was that the head teacher and her senco wasn't in, which she wasn't expecting so her day got even worse. She doesn't like Project/History because she's doing Space (which she likes) but it wasn't what she was expecting. Then her math teacher went home which she didn't know until the lesson started where she had a substitute (a teacher she knows well and likes) so that was a surprise for her and she was overwhelmed since nothing was working. She also fell out with her tutor, which really messed her up. Therefore overall her day was ruined in her mind and she wasn't in control of any situation so she left school after lunch so I picked her up. (It's also her first day back so it's always anxious going back). 

It's a real worry when she leaves the school site since she doesn't have a phone on her and teachers didn't realise until the next lesson. And where we live, there are lots of weirdos out and it's a horrible world, anything could happen to her (like any other person). I don't know what to do anymore but keep a cool head and be understanding. She doesn't want to go to school for the rest of the week. 

Last month we had similar problems so I emailed the senco and she wrote this back: I wonder why she is thinking like this about not attending when she is doing so well. It is almost like she stops engaging with things when she becomes comfortable with them and they stop providing such an intense reaction in her, almost like she seeks that adrenaline reaction and when that goes she becomes flat and disengaged.

Could this be part of it and being bored in school as well of the things I mentioned above. She wanted to stop going last month and stopped going to lessons, like she did today. We are going round in circles...

I'm sorry for going on. Any opinions/advice is appreciated. Thanks x

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  • Perhaps it's time to draw a line in the sand, and consider Homeschooling?

    Girls are moody enough, at that age, without Autism added into the equation. Perhaps she feels incarcerated whenever she's in School. I know a few smart cookies around my age who struggled at school, mainly because of the cliques and bullying.

  • in reply to Desmond79

    We've tried homeschooling before but it doesn't work for her. Her mental health took a big dip last time and she won't be happy doing it again. She is very smart but doesn't work because 'she can't be bothered' 'She's not motivated' or 'she's bored or tired'. She isn't being bullied and she's usually the one out of lesson all day. She isn't a bad naughty student (or any others), she just has her own issues to deal with. Teachers say she's wonderful, bright and cheerful student and a pleasure to teach. 

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  • in reply to Desmond79

    We've tried homeschooling before but it doesn't work for her. Her mental health took a big dip last time and she won't be happy doing it again. She is very smart but doesn't work because 'she can't be bothered' 'She's not motivated' or 'she's bored or tired'. She isn't being bullied and she's usually the one out of lesson all day. She isn't a bad naughty student (or any others), she just has her own issues to deal with. Teachers say she's wonderful, bright and cheerful student and a pleasure to teach. 

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