Nursery v Home - conflicting reports

My son is still waiting to be assessed so I understand its somewhat speculative. 

The nursery dont seem to have any concerns with him at the moment. They say he is defiant - which is reflected by his refusal to potty train, something they cant get a breakthrough with either. He refused to leave the toilet area yesterday in protest which is something I deal with daily.

Is it possible for him to be able to cope better at nursery than at home? Or is it a sign that really its something im doing wrong and hes a normal child? They suggested I take parenting courses to help deal with his behaviour at home.  I will look into it I just feel like a failure especially since I have raised my daughter well without issue.

Any advice on similar situations would be appreciated.

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  • hi - Silver gives loads of good advice. Please don't think you're a bad parent.  You've raised your daughter "well, without issue" so why do they blame you?  Really, it is irresponsible of them to presume in this way.  If your son is diagnosed as autistic, then I'm not sure how the "parenting courses" will have helped as I presume they're for parents of children without autism.  If you think he may be on the autistic spectrum then build up your knowledge by searching this site.  There's loads of info + posts.  There will be other posts about potty training.  Also check out the home page.  Don't let them knock your confidence!

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  • hi - Silver gives loads of good advice. Please don't think you're a bad parent.  You've raised your daughter "well, without issue" so why do they blame you?  Really, it is irresponsible of them to presume in this way.  If your son is diagnosed as autistic, then I'm not sure how the "parenting courses" will have helped as I presume they're for parents of children without autism.  If you think he may be on the autistic spectrum then build up your knowledge by searching this site.  There's loads of info + posts.  There will be other posts about potty training.  Also check out the home page.  Don't let them knock your confidence!

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