Nursery v Home - conflicting reports

My son is still waiting to be assessed so I understand its somewhat speculative. 

The nursery dont seem to have any concerns with him at the moment. They say he is defiant - which is reflected by his refusal to potty train, something they cant get a breakthrough with either. He refused to leave the toilet area yesterday in protest which is something I deal with daily.

Is it possible for him to be able to cope better at nursery than at home? Or is it a sign that really its something im doing wrong and hes a normal child? They suggested I take parenting courses to help deal with his behaviour at home.  I will look into it I just feel like a failure especially since I have raised my daughter well without issue.

Any advice on similar situations would be appreciated.

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  • I think they should stop trying to force him, he may have issues they don't understand. Spectrum children are often seen as 'naughty' or defiant because they think they know what AS is when they have very limited knowledge, but still think they can make this judgement.

    What triggers times of conflict at home? Is it, for example trying to get ready to go out in a morning?

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  • I think they should stop trying to force him, he may have issues they don't understand. Spectrum children are often seen as 'naughty' or defiant because they think they know what AS is when they have very limited knowledge, but still think they can make this judgement.

    What triggers times of conflict at home? Is it, for example trying to get ready to go out in a morning?

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