I GIVE UP...

I'm starting to give up. My 14 y.o daughter has so many issues going on right now and I'm sure some is bad parenting. I really need help. I've posted many things about them but now they are starting to worry me. 

She keeps damaging school property to get staples and pins. She was kicking chairs about in school. Doesn't go to lessons and sits in the hall chilling. She left school grounds. She loves to wander about everywhere so I let her go out with her sister (13 years) and she was collecting sticks and banging on the bins with them, smashing beer bottles and creating a mess in their local park with them. She keeps hiding in bushes and keep coming home with sweets, food and fizzy drinks they've been buying with her sister's money but it's too much sugar. (£15 worth in 2 days). When she's in the house she's fine and chilled.

I don't know what to do since her behaviour is changing and I've seen this before before she breaks up for the school holidays. I don't know what to do. I'm lost. She's changing. Most of her behaviour happens in school which confuses me since she loves school and is upping her time there. How can I help with the transition to the break? 

I'm sorry for ranting on but I'm sure the behaviour outside of school is because of my bad parenting. Any advice/opinions are amazing. 

Thanks x

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  • I'm sorry for ranting on but I'm sure the behaviour outside of school is because of my bad parenting

    No it really isnt, its entirely about her.  Everything you have described is frustrated teenager behaviour.  I wont scare you with what my 13 year old daughter got up to but this isnt even moving the needle!  It took her a long time to work through her issues with herself but now she has degrees and is doing a PhD.  Love her, take care of her, give her space when she needs it and boundaries when they are wise and keep on parenting.  Every bit of support you give her helps her find her way into adulthood.  

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  • I'm sorry for ranting on but I'm sure the behaviour outside of school is because of my bad parenting

    No it really isnt, its entirely about her.  Everything you have described is frustrated teenager behaviour.  I wont scare you with what my 13 year old daughter got up to but this isnt even moving the needle!  It took her a long time to work through her issues with herself but now she has degrees and is doing a PhD.  Love her, take care of her, give her space when she needs it and boundaries when they are wise and keep on parenting.  Every bit of support you give her helps her find her way into adulthood.  

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