Walking out of school...

From her point of you it sounds a nightmare , PRU aren't autistic friendly . She needs a proper placement ,with properly trained staff.

may i ask what project is ?   

Project is basically like history and they learn about the past and make things. This school have a few people with autism in and in my opinion they are pretty good with it and have good training. 

With all respect your daughter is jumping over the gate and in tears. Would the school let her skip this lesson .? 

My 14 year old is like that glued to my arm when out ,she is really sensory ,sound ,smell ,light ,touch . She says she wants to live in a house in the garden when older . will probably try to get her in a private school ,if we can find a good one, when she is ready.

I gravitated towards the losers in school, but still had an air of respectability towards the normal kids. Now, in my adult years, I feel that I have the best of both worlds.

I'm working with the teachers with messages about how her day was. And I'm listening to what my daughter would like and following my gut at the same time...

Its very hard coping, not knowing what to do for the best ,do you listen to the "experts " or not ,do you follow your gut feeling ,is it your fault [which it isn't] .

But if she is getting worse and things are going down hill ,you need to change the direction and create the right environment for her ,whether she stays there,moves school ,or home school. She is her ,you can't change that.

That's great that you're all still friends

I created a huge extrovert fake persona (my mask) in my teens so I attracted all the other nerdy aspies - we were all undiagnosed (it was the late 70s) but we fitted well together - I'm still friends with all of them over 40 years later and we all meet up once a year at Christmas.

That is definitely true. She does seem to be herself most of the time since she has another 2 people her age with autism in her class with her so they all feel comfortable together even though they are different obviously. 

We are waiting a place at another school but this school is fine for her altogether at the moment.... She sees her 1 lesson on a Monday but otherwise she always get checked up on by her and her office is always open and it's opposite my daughters room luckily. But I agree it's not the place for her but they do have many special needs students so they have experience and are amazing, supportive and helpful with her.

mael said:

if she was in the right environment she would thrive and be able to be herself

Absolutely - we're only 'autistic' when we're around NTs.

sendco once a week ,is that one hour a week ?..

they will do the minimum they can ,she obviously needs a lot more help .

Sorry i have been through all this so many times .

 I see it this way ,there is nothing wrong with your daughter , if she was in the right environment she would thrive and be able to be herself ,A PRU is not the right place for her .

That's amazing! 

Awesome - my daughter is 22 and has graduated uni - and she still likes to reach for my hand in crowded places. 

Yes, and we are all grateful for that since last year there was no way she would stay in the house or school on a bad day. Even running away, so everything we have done and she hs done as a family to help her(self) has worked really well. 

Sounds like she trusts you and can use you as a portable safe-space. 

I have to admit, she used to go to this school before being home schooled but has now gone back obviously. She used to be a lot worse but now has some coping mechanisms but when it gets too much (or when she has Project lesson) she can't process or think properly in my eyes. She is very bright and can do the work and some has been to easy. She does know right and wrong and was very apologetic when I picked up from down the road from the school. 

I have noticed she is a lot happier in herself (she's had a traumatic past) and she knows I'm there for her and knows I'm always on the end of the phone if she needs me during school.

Today, I used a different method to calm her down and she went from tears and overload to no tears and being exhausted but happier. I think she also now knows I understand her a lot better which helps her a lot and when we got back home she chilled out in her bedroom and then took the dog out with me. She has improved a lot ever since last year..

I have to admit, she used to go to this school before being home schooled but has now gone back obviously. She used to be a lot worse but now has some coping mechanisms but when it gets too much (or when she has Project lesson) she can't process or think properly in my eyes. She is very bright and can do the work and some has been to easy. She does know right and wrong and was very apologetic when I picked up from down the road from the school. 

I have noticed she is a lot happier in herself (she's had a traumatic past) and she knows I'm there for her and knows I'm always on the end of the phone if she needs me during school.

Today, I used a different method to calm her down and she went from tears and overload to no tears and being exhausted but happier. I think she also now knows I understand her a lot better which helps her a lot and when we got back home she chilled out in her bedroom and then took the dog out with me. She has improved a lot ever since last year..

My 14 year old is like that glued to my arm when out ,she is really sensory ,sound ,smell ,light ,touch . She says she wants to live in a house in the garden when older . will probably try to get her in a private school ,if we can find a good one, when she is ready.

That's amazing! 

Awesome - my daughter is 22 and has graduated uni - and she still likes to reach for my hand in crowded places. 

Yes, and we are all grateful for that since last year there was no way she would stay in the house or school on a bad day. Even running away, so everything we have done and she hs done as a family to help her(self) has worked really well. 

Sounds like she trusts you and can use you as a portable safe-space.