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Autistic behaviours or Misbehaviour??

Shannon

My little brother who is 7 is currently going through the diagnosis for autism. He is cared for by my mam and when she is working he stays with his grandma and grandad. I try to help out as much as can and although I feel massively guilty for saying this, sometimes I really don't like looking after him. I have researched, my mam has told me a lot from the psychologist who has been working with my brother and I've also joined nas forum\group so I understand and empathise that my brother has behaviours that are due to him being autistic, however some behaviours I feel are just lack of respect and misbehaviour. I know my mam works very hard but I do feel lack of routine, boundaries and discipline is a massive part of some behaviours but also feel like a lot of people in my family let bad behaviour slip "because he has autism". Could anyone give me some advice on what sort of behaviours will not associate with autism and the importance of discipline, routine and boundaries and how best tBlusho put them in play for a person with autism. Thanks very much for reading and any reply would be greatly appreciated :) 

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  • Good on you for spotting the difference.   Lots of people make excuses and let the bad behaviours escalate.

    There's a really fine line between autistic behaviours and downright bad behaviours.    

    A lot of it comes from the parents being caught out - they didn't realise their child was autistic until things got too bad and a diagnosis becomes obvious.

    A random, chaotic environment creates lots of trigger points for the child who will then often use them to see how far they can push things to take complete control.  

     A calm home environment of stability, simple, solid rules, consistency and logic help build a good base to work with but wrestling the control back can be a long, painful process - which for some is too hard and physically draining so the child becomes a monster that will get out of control as they get older - and bigger and stronger.

    Are you able to all talk and come up with a plan and agree a set of rules and boundaries?

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  • Good on you for spotting the difference.   Lots of people make excuses and let the bad behaviours escalate.

    There's a really fine line between autistic behaviours and downright bad behaviours.    

    A lot of it comes from the parents being caught out - they didn't realise their child was autistic until things got too bad and a diagnosis becomes obvious.

    A random, chaotic environment creates lots of trigger points for the child who will then often use them to see how far they can push things to take complete control.  

     A calm home environment of stability, simple, solid rules, consistency and logic help build a good base to work with but wrestling the control back can be a long, painful process - which for some is too hard and physically draining so the child becomes a monster that will get out of control as they get older - and bigger and stronger.

    Are you able to all talk and come up with a plan and agree a set of rules and boundaries?

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