My daughter has anxiety and struggles with socialising face to face

Yes me. I hate it and can't generally handle it unless I start talking non stop about something I am interested in.  I would just support her by not pushing her to socialise if she can't handle it. Ask her if she wants friends. If she says no leave it be and if she says yes help her gradually ease into it. I find that autistic people usually get on like a house on fire with other autistic people. Not every time quite often. There's unspoken understanding and comfort there when your dealing with someone just like yourself.

Yes me. I hate it and can't generally handle it unless I start talking non stop about something I am interested in.  I would just support her by not pushing her to socialise if she can't handle it. Ask her if she wants friends. If she says no leave it be and if she says yes help her gradually ease into it. I find that autistic people usually get on like a house on fire with other autistic people. Not every time quite often. There's unspoken understanding and comfort there when your dealing with someone just like yourself.

Thank you for replying . She has an online friend for the past 2 years and they get on like an house on fire . They both want to meet in person and Iv spoken to her mam and we have agreed to meet half way this year ( live 4 hours apart ) so the girls can meet . 
but having someone more local I feel would allow her to have that proper contact and face to face visits . Although when I suggest it she says there’s no one around here like me . 
she’s a very black and white thinker. No grey area . 
Are the any good books out there that I can read up on .

she is waiting for an assessment so no diagnosis as yet . 
thanks x