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HOW DO YOU CALM A VIOLENT TEEN???

ParentingAutism
over 3 years ago

How do you calm down a violent teen? 

My 14 y.o can become extremely aggressive and violent and nothing can calm her down...

I need help since I have no clue how to keep her and my other kids safe... 

This morning she became distressed when her sister (13 years) sprayed something in the bedroom. My teen (with autism) then told her not to and started closing the curtains in their bedroom (which they share). My other teen then opened  the curtains and the window then hell kicked off...

My teen (with autism) shut them again, then my other daughter told her not to. 

Anyways.... they started fighting and I tried splitting them up since they were screaming, kicking, punching, and when I thought is was over, it started again... But my autistic daughter grabbed a pair of scissors and wanted to stab her sister with it... 

All hell broke loose and I managed to take the scissors away from her. But how do I stop them from fighting next time? How do I keep my son and daughters safe? How do I calm her down? 

Any help is very much appreciated. I'm lost and at my wits end... 

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  • over 3 years ago

    There is a difference between punishment and disapproval ,would you punish a child for wetting themselves, punishment in this case would be wrong ,if she can't cope she can't cope . If you go down that route you are punishing her for being her and you will do damage and lose her . Explain the problems to both daughters and get things out in the open , and give them the space they need .  

    It will damage there relationship and that could be for the rest of there life's 

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  • over 3 years ago

    There is a difference between punishment and disapproval ,would you punish a child for wetting themselves, punishment in this case would be wrong ,if she can't cope she can't cope . If you go down that route you are punishing her for being her and you will do damage and lose her . Explain the problems to both daughters and get things out in the open , and give them the space they need .  

    It will damage there relationship and that could be for the rest of there life's 

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