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HOW DO YOU CALM A VIOLENT TEEN???

ParentingAutism
over 3 years ago

How do you calm down a violent teen? 

My 14 y.o can become extremely aggressive and violent and nothing can calm her down...

I need help since I have no clue how to keep her and my other kids safe... 

This morning she became distressed when her sister (13 years) sprayed something in the bedroom. My teen (with autism) then told her not to and started closing the curtains in their bedroom (which they share). My other teen then opened  the curtains and the window then hell kicked off...

My teen (with autism) shut them again, then my other daughter told her not to. 

Anyways.... they started fighting and I tried splitting them up since they were screaming, kicking, punching, and when I thought is was over, it started again... But my autistic daughter grabbed a pair of scissors and wanted to stab her sister with it... 

All hell broke loose and I managed to take the scissors away from her. But how do I stop them from fighting next time? How do I keep my son and daughters safe? How do I calm her down? 

Any help is very much appreciated. I'm lost and at my wits end... 

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  • over 3 years ago

    Hi ParentingAutism,

    Sorry to hear you're having a difficult time with violent behaviour from your daughter. NAS has some advice pages on challenging behaviour that might be of some help to you: here is a link to the behaviour section - https://www.autism.org.uk/advice-and-guidance/topics/behaviour - from which you can choose which issues you need help with (anger management, or meltdowns, for example) and you can find advice, support, links to our helplines and recommended other organisations. The Challenging Behaviour Foundation in particular - www.challengingbehaviour.org.uk - might be beneficial to you.

    Hope this is of some help,
    Ross - mod

  • over 3 years ago in reply to Ross-Mod

    Stop spraying  poison in an autistic person environment - that will do the trick. I would disregard the stuff posted ny NT Ross Mod. It is the user BS you hear from so called experts. IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH EFFING CHALLENGING BEHAVIOUR. 

    IT IS PURELY A SENSORY ISSUE - WHERE AN NT SIBBLING IS COMPLETELY INCONSIDERATE. 

    Why use the stuff anyway. Spraying what is basically petrol on your skin, so you can preen and strut in a ritual much like an chimpanzee or peacock. 

    PRIMATIVE NTs. 

    Holds Head In Hands.......!!!

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  • over 3 years ago in reply to Ross-Mod

    Stop spraying  poison in an autistic person environment - that will do the trick. I would disregard the stuff posted ny NT Ross Mod. It is the user BS you hear from so called experts. IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH EFFING CHALLENGING BEHAVIOUR. 

    IT IS PURELY A SENSORY ISSUE - WHERE AN NT SIBBLING IS COMPLETELY INCONSIDERATE. 

    Why use the stuff anyway. Spraying what is basically petrol on your skin, so you can preen and strut in a ritual much like an chimpanzee or peacock. 

    PRIMATIVE NTs. 

    Holds Head In Hands.......!!!

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