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REALLY NEED HELP!!!

ParentingAutism

My 14 y.o is refusing to do school work in school. Teachers have been trying to encourage her and been trying to help a lot but she just won't move. She will sit with her head on the desk with her hood up. Teachers will include her favourite hobbies in her work and reward her by looking at them on the laptop when she's done. But instead she will look at them during breaks/lunch and during her lessons and when she is told to do work she will just refuse. When teachers try to take the laptop away she will just find another one then become extremely frustrated and upset if teachers try take it away again. I'm just lost with her behaviour... I need help. Anyone know how to help?? 

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  • When I was 4 at school I was board out of my skull. At home I was watching open university lectures on the tv, at school I was being constantly scolded for being poor at the 3Rs. They tried to motivate me by sending me to the top oldest class for a day which was studying electronics but everything they were doing i’d seen already.

    home schooling worked for me. For some time my mother tried to do things the same way the teachers did, structured and ordered by the book. She spent so much time trying to drill mental arithmetic into me. Then we just skipped chapter one and went straight onto algebra and years later here I am with a PhD. It sounds like your child has an extremely inhomogeneous set of interests and abilities. Trying bribery won’t work. You simply need to skip the parts she won’t do. Come back to them later when she gets onto more advanced material that she’s interested in that requires it as a foundation. Because if she can see she needs it to understand something she is actually interested in she’ll put the time in. But probably not before then what ever you do.

    teachers generally don’t like teaching this way. It drives a horse and cart through the national curriculum and it’s more or less incompatable with a lesson plan where everyone in the class is meant to be covering the same material at the same point in time ... however for me in the context of home schooling it worked.

    yes her education will be patchy but that didn’t hurt me. I’ve a degree in mathematics, an MSc in molecular biology a PhD in applied mathematics and a job as a scientist... and i don’t know the 3 times table off by heart. I can’t say it’s particularly held me back.

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  • When I was 4 at school I was board out of my skull. At home I was watching open university lectures on the tv, at school I was being constantly scolded for being poor at the 3Rs. They tried to motivate me by sending me to the top oldest class for a day which was studying electronics but everything they were doing i’d seen already.

    home schooling worked for me. For some time my mother tried to do things the same way the teachers did, structured and ordered by the book. She spent so much time trying to drill mental arithmetic into me. Then we just skipped chapter one and went straight onto algebra and years later here I am with a PhD. It sounds like your child has an extremely inhomogeneous set of interests and abilities. Trying bribery won’t work. You simply need to skip the parts she won’t do. Come back to them later when she gets onto more advanced material that she’s interested in that requires it as a foundation. Because if she can see she needs it to understand something she is actually interested in she’ll put the time in. But probably not before then what ever you do.

    teachers generally don’t like teaching this way. It drives a horse and cart through the national curriculum and it’s more or less incompatable with a lesson plan where everyone in the class is meant to be covering the same material at the same point in time ... however for me in the context of home schooling it worked.

    yes her education will be patchy but that didn’t hurt me. I’ve a degree in mathematics, an MSc in molecular biology a PhD in applied mathematics and a job as a scientist... and i don’t know the 3 times table off by heart. I can’t say it’s particularly held me back.

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