Transforming

Is this for all things? Or are you thinking of leaving your home and going to his parents? Or after school?. Or going out?

Generally autists find transitions hard.

Hi NicheMarket,

It's certainly happening upon leaving ours and returning to his parents although I know it happens from school too.

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It's classic with school, as Palstic says, to meltdown after holding it all in. Transitions with kids are classic periods when emotions and resistance comes out and an attempt to exert control. A veriety of thibgs could be happening. What goes on, and what's the impact and why are you concerned?

It's classic with school, as Palstic says, to meltdown after holding it all in. Transitions with kids are classic periods when emotions and resistance comes out and an attempt to exert control. A veriety of thibgs could be happening. What goes on, and what's the impact and why are you concerned?

Thank you for your thoughts

I'm no expert on this, I'm AS and don't have kids! But a few things pop to mind.

There are resources on this site for parents, and parents seem to find groups where they meet other parents helpful. I'd look through past posts in this forum. A lot contain similar issues. The school one is very common.

I'd also repost your original question with a title like 'Meltdowns on transitions between grandparents and mum." Or "Transition problems between granparents and mum," if it's not a meltdown. You can maybe exid this current one. It'll make more sense to other parents and they'll open and read it. At the moment it's getting low engagement probably be ause Transformers doesn't say much to most.

I'd also describe what happens between him and his mum, the impact or why it's a problem. What I'm getting from what you've written doesn't sound too bad, so I guess there's more detail to share to communicate what the problem is.

I like the books All Cats have Autism/Aspergers, Inside Autism Looking Out, and The Reson I Jump, as books to get inside kids heads with autism There are lots of others.

Definitely browse the old posts, and the suggested posts that pop up on the right bar.

My daughter, who's son we are discussing, is a single Mum who is struggling to hold it together. She's possibly autistic herself. My Grandson loves transformers but appears to me to only engage in immersing himself in being a transformer when his stress levels are higher than he's able to contain. We're in the very early stages of trying to understand him and adapt our ways. When in transforming mode it's not possible to communicate with him and this is causing conflict between them. We're trying to make sense of behaviours that until now lie outside of our experience. At his first primary school meltdowns weren't uncommon and presented themselves differently. You thoughts and comments are very welcome