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Overwhelmed

Clare

Parent of an autistic 7yr old. Feeling overwhelmed and lost of how best to support her. She’s currently at school as generally enjoys lockdown with less children and learning pressures on her. Attendance at the beginning of the school year was low though. Still refuses to get up in the mornings and it’s a constant battle to get her up dressed and breakfast- generally 2 hrs. Just before we’d have to leave she might suddenly say I want to go and then we have to rush around getting her ready and being late. Or other days total refusal. This is often the case of leaving the house for any reason such as a walk. Refuses to dress etc. We also have screaming when things aren’t to her expectations. Any advice

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  • Also, have an exit strategy. Let her know (if you're going out for a walk for example) where you are going, how long it will take and that if she feels bad she can just come home. Walking her through what you're planning to do mentally, before you do it, will help her know what to expect so it's not so overwhelming for her Slight smile

  • in reply to NAS71069

    Even getting her in the garden is a challenge. I’m ecstatic if we manage a family walk or she gets some daylight Blush

  • in reply to Clare

    I feel for you, I really do. My son left school in year 8 and has been home schooled ever since, but only because I couldn't get the right support at the time to move him to a more suitable school environment. I would certainly try this first if you can. I would think it may be better for both of you if she can retain a routine of going out to school. Have a look at smaller class sizes, and schools that understand autism. Also have you had an occupational therapist assess her sensory profile?

  • in reply to Clare

    YOU can decide yourself if you can see she is not getting on in her current school. Yes it helps to have support from professionals, but you know your child better than anyone and don't be afraid to push that. Even a different state school with a different ethos and smaller class sizes may be better for her and you could decide that yourself. You only need a 'professional' to back you up if you want a 'paid for' specialist school. So yes go for that aswell if you think it's appropriate Slight smile The OT report will be invaluable Slight smile

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  • in reply to Clare

    YOU can decide yourself if you can see she is not getting on in her current school. Yes it helps to have support from professionals, but you know your child better than anyone and don't be afraid to push that. Even a different state school with a different ethos and smaller class sizes may be better for her and you could decide that yourself. You only need a 'professional' to back you up if you want a 'paid for' specialist school. So yes go for that aswell if you think it's appropriate Slight smile The OT report will be invaluable Slight smile

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