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astill66

can any one give me some help and advice please , my 15 yr old son has aspergers and refuses to attend school i have come to the end of my tether with him and dont know which way to turn now, i also have education board on my case now please help

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  • Hello

    Sorry to hear of your difficulties.  Our son was out of school for 3.5 years because we couldnt find a placement that appropriately met his needs.  We tried homeschooling and it didnt work for us - its not for everyone (hats off to those who do manage it).

    I agree with Johnsmum that there must be something going on at school thats making it unbearable for him.  Have you tried asking him about it?  Perhaps in a way that makes it clear that you arent putting any pressure on him to return to school, but would like to understand what it is about school that's troubling him, so that you can help.

    Does your son have an IEP and a statement of SEN?  If he has a statement, then your local authority has a duty to ensure that he receives an appropriate education - you could ask for an Annual Review of the statement so that you, the school and reps of the local authority can solve the difficulties together. 

    Its hard to offer guidance without knowing more about your situation - whether your son does or doesnt have a statement makes a big difference because of the responsibility a statement confers. If he doesnt have a statement, you might want to think about getting one.

    You could get in touch with your local Parent Partnership Service (google it) - they should be able to give you individual help and support.  There is also the NAS Education Advice line, the tel no is on the NAS web site.

    Hope that helps

    Zoe

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  • Hello

    Sorry to hear of your difficulties.  Our son was out of school for 3.5 years because we couldnt find a placement that appropriately met his needs.  We tried homeschooling and it didnt work for us - its not for everyone (hats off to those who do manage it).

    I agree with Johnsmum that there must be something going on at school thats making it unbearable for him.  Have you tried asking him about it?  Perhaps in a way that makes it clear that you arent putting any pressure on him to return to school, but would like to understand what it is about school that's troubling him, so that you can help.

    Does your son have an IEP and a statement of SEN?  If he has a statement, then your local authority has a duty to ensure that he receives an appropriate education - you could ask for an Annual Review of the statement so that you, the school and reps of the local authority can solve the difficulties together. 

    Its hard to offer guidance without knowing more about your situation - whether your son does or doesnt have a statement makes a big difference because of the responsibility a statement confers. If he doesnt have a statement, you might want to think about getting one.

    You could get in touch with your local Parent Partnership Service (google it) - they should be able to give you individual help and support.  There is also the NAS Education Advice line, the tel no is on the NAS web site.

    Hope that helps

    Zoe

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